GODLY PRINCIPLES FOR MARITAL BONDING (1)

A few months before marriage, while sitting at the table with our grandfather in the faith, he looked at us and said, “God is not an author of confusion. Nothing must come between your wife and yourself, not even the calling. God cannot call you to Eruwa and send your wife to England. That is not his way of doing things.” 

He went ahead and gave us instances of marriages that fell into the pit of confusion. They are either struggling, separated or totally dead marriages today. 

This can look like a hard saying, but listen carefully: If you do not agree on where to settle, you are not ready to settle. 

I had to let go of a relationship heading to marriage because we could not agree on location. I am grateful I did because we are both at peace in our different marriages today. It would have been a storm. 

I heard a beloved woman of God say to ministers once, “This pattern of sending your spouse to pastor in London while you are in Lagos is strange. It is not God’s model.” She is right! Even if you are not a pastor, a home needs both the man and the woman. That is divine wisdom.  We cannot be smarter than the Holy Ghost. 

When Abraham moved, Sarah did not stay behind. Sarah also moved. Sarah dwelt in tents with Abraham on his journey of faith. Marriage is a covenant relationship. Covenants are bloody. You will at times need to sacrifice comfort. 

We may not always say it- One area that Moses had his shortcoming was his marriage. His wife did not accept the call to Egypt. Moses eventually married an Ethiopian woman that raised some dust. Moses was also the one who permitted divorce. 

Listen- there are many patterns but ONLY the one ordained by the Lord will give you peace of mind, guarantees progress and preserves posterity. 

The first principle of marital bonding is simple- God is NOT an author of confusion. 

I Corinthians 14:33 NKJV

For God is not the author of confusion but of peace…