GODLY PRINCIPLES FOR MARITAL BONDING (7)
By the time I stepped back into the living room, Irewamiri had gone in. I walked in to her, but I realized that the warm atmosphere we had just a few minutes earlier had switched totally. I was getting one-word answers. I was confused. We were just good a while back. It took forty-eight hours to unravel the mystery.
Someone had walked up to her to ask for an audience. When she asked what the matter was, this person said, “Has the pastor not told you?” “Told me what? He has not told me anything”, Irewamiri replied. The person then said, “If he has not told you, then I should not tell you.”
It was the same person I sought an excuse to have a chat with that evening when I stepped out. I was correcting the person about a matter we had both agreed needed to be addressed. This person is a female!
Think about it for a moment- The same person who told me that my husband has something he is hiding from me is now the person my husband is stepping out to talk to. Amazing!
Beloved, if you will enjoy marital bonding, you must understand and practice the principle of naked and not ashamed. When you have things to hide, the enemy will exploit them to wreck your home.
The devil exploited that situation and sowed a seed of suspicion. From that day, I made up my mind that there would be no dark corners or spots for the enemy to exploit.
The Psalmist spoke about the arrows that fly in the day. Before then, he mentioned the terror of the night.
Psalms 91:5 NLT
[5] Do not be afraid of the terrors of the night, nor the arrow that flies in the day.
The enemy hides in the dark to fire into the day.
It means the enemy exploits darkness to attack. If you create a dark spot through incomplete information or assumptions, the enemy will exploit it. He will fire arrows of suspicion, breakdown of trust and other strange thoughts from his hiding place that you ignorantly created.
You are not ready for marital bonding if teachings like “Do not check your husband’s or wife’s phone” are what excite you. If you give someone access to your life, why deny them access to your phone? What are you hiding? There is no message on my phone that my wife cannot read. We even read at times and say, “Ah! I opened a message two days ago from so and so, please remember to reply.” We just smile and move on. No issues.
If you have things to hide, you have already made marital bonding hard. Calm down. Choose transparency. Leave no dark spots.
© temilOluwa Ola, Eruwa.
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