GODLY PRINCIPLES FOR MARITAL BONDING (8)
We had quite a heated atmosphere at home that week. We were trying all we could to make it work. I remember telling Irewamiri that morning, “I am afraid of you. When I see our spiritual parents today, I will raise this matter.” She had her own reply too. She served it hot.
I said it in the exact way. I told my spiritual parents, “I am afraid of her.” That was where my correction began. Those words, “Never ever say that you are afraid of your wife again. You are a child of God. Where is that strange thought and those words coming from?” I learnt my lessons.
Beloved, fear brings torment, but perfect love casts out all fears. God did not give us the spirit of fear but of love, power and a sound mind.
I John 4:18 NKJV
There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear, because fear involves torment. But he who fears has not been made perfect in love.
Where fear is given permission to reign, love is restrained from expression.
If you are going to build a strong bond with your spouse, one of the very first things that you should work on is the words you speak about your spouse and about your marriage.
Words are prophetic images. Whatever you say, you will soon act out. If you keep saying, “One day, I will slap you”, trust me, that day will surely come, and you will end up slapping your spouse. Why? You were prophesying it all along.
If you are used to saying, “With all this your behaviour, one day I will leave you”, the truth is that one day you will leave. Why? You prophesied your separation.
You cannot be confessing the opposite of what you truly desire and expect to build what you desire. You bound yourself with your own mouth. Do not expect a miracle till you change what you say about and to one another.
The moment you say things like “I am afraid of you” to your spouse, you have already built a snare with your own mouth. Why? Fear of man is a snare. You dug a pit. You laid a trap. The end is not always palatable.
Proverbs 29:25 NKJV
The fear of man brings a snare
Beloved, I have not recovered from the shock I had about a man, who, in the middle of a marital crisis, told his wife that the next time I would see you would be at your funeral. Ah! That was exactly how the story ended.
Do not joke with words. Do not let the devil employ your mouth to wreck your union.
© temilOluwa Ola, Eruwa.
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