THE WEIGHT OF WORDS IN MARRIAGE AND FAMILY LIFE (2)

About two years into our marriage, we were on the way to church on a Sunday morning. I called Irewamiri and handed over to her all I had on me that morning. I said to her, “Darling, this is all I have on me aside from our offering for today. Please let’s use this token to buy some things after service today. We can manage that for a while”.

I have not forgotten her response for the past eight years. It still rings in my head. It is an assurance I can never forget. She said to me, “You are a blessed man.” I was shocked. “Me, that I thought I was broke”. I had joy in my heart all that day because my wife told me I was a blessed man.

God showed up. Just as we were done making purchases with our token. I got a message, “Pastor, did you see the token I sent to you?”. That token was a gift of a hundred thousand naira.

What a blessed husband of a blessed wife!

Listen beloved, she had an option of calling me according to the situation. She could have even remained silent and heaved a deep sigh of concern that would have turned into a heavy load on my own heart, but her words of assurance melted away every concern that had built in my heart.

There are people who throw words around mindlessly. There are those whose words have added to the financial pressure upon the man. Truth be told, some men are already heaving with sighs as they return home again to limited resources. Those with cars are crying behind the wheel. Some are crying quietly with bowed heads on public buses. They still come home to words that kill the little ounce of strength left.

The home that is meant to nurse them back to strength keeps pointing out the obvious- “You are not doing enough,” “We are broke in this house,” “Find out what your mates are doing,” and others. He goes back out with a defeated mindset.

Those words you call “saying it as it is” become counterproductive. The “bitter truth” becomes a poison that slows down your spouse.

Do you have words of assurance?
Are you shaving His head or strengthening His heart?

Words must be used to comfort and strengthen.

I Thessalonians 4:18 NKJV
Therefore comfort one another with these words.

Tell your spouse today that He is blessed as he goes out. Tell him he is blessed when he comes in.

Deuteronomy 28:6 NKJV
“Blessed shall you be when you come in, and blessed shall you be when you go out.

Do not let the situation change your speech. Insist that you will speak according to what the Lord has said and your desires.

And for everyone under financial pressure, I pray for you today- By the blessing of the Lord, every pressure is deflated now!