THE WEIGHT OF WORDS IN MARRIAGE AND FAMILY LIFE (7)
Some years back, I was sitting beside Irewamiri at home. I told one of the young ladies at home that day, “Let us go and have a daddy-daughter talk.” By the time I came in, Irewamiri had gone inside.
Our atmosphere was cold for two days. I knew something was wrong. Eventually, I got the full picture from her. The same day I walked out to talk to the young lady, they both already had a conversation that had left Irewamiri wondering if everything was alright. The young lady told her, “If Daddy has not told you, maybe I should not tell you yet”. She kept wondering what she meant. My action that evening cemented any interesting thought she already had.
When we eventually spoke and got to the root of the matter, we discovered that there was never an issue, but the enemy capitalised on incomplete information and lack of training to wreak some havoc on our hearts. First, I told her I had gone to address a matter with the lady that we had both agreed had to be addressed. Second, she told me about what happened earlier in the day. When the information we had was complete, every disagreement disappeared.
From that day, we decided there would never be any blind spot when we communicated, no matter how small or insignificant it looked. We made significant shifts in our systems.
When the devil cannot supply information, he wants to be the one to supply interpretation. When he interprets, he distorts the reality until there is a loggerhead.
If you do not want the enemy to take advantage of your marriage and family, make sure you do not give the chance for information to be manipulated or used as a weapon.
You must learn to set the record straight and keep the record straight:
Proverbs 18:17 TPT
There are two sides to every story. The first one to speak sounds true until you hear the other side, and they set the record straight.
There are two sides to every story. Have you exercised patience to listen to the other side? Or have you just acted on incomplete information laced with devilish interpretation? What if you are causing pain to your spouse and children because you acted on a piece of incomplete information?
Have you asked whether there are things in your blind spot? Would everything change when you get the full information? Always strive to get the record straight before you allow the issue to put pressure on your marriage and your family.
Remember, when the enemy cannot supply information, he wants to interpret the information that you have so he can distort it. Do not allow that prankster to succeed in your home.
temilOluwa Ola, Eruwa