HOW TO BUILD A RICH WORD CULTURE IN YOUR HOME (4)

A dear one called to inform me about a challenge that was engulfing their marital union. It was obvious that the house was on fire. If care or caution was not exercised, guided by the wisdom of God, the marriage was bound to drown.

I told this beloved one, “Would you please do me just one favour?”. Based on your trust, in the middle of the heat, there was an agreement. I was glad. I said, ‘Please, go and spend the next thirty minutes in worship. This load is too heavy to carry. You cannot carry it. It will weigh you down and worse still, it will poison your soul”.

I continued, “That discovery is a poisoned arrow. If it lodges in your heart, that would be the end. You will begin to make poisoned choices. It will wreck it all”.

When we had the time to speak later, this dear one said to me, “Sir, thank you for asking me to spend time in worship. I have done it a couple of times afterwards.  It has helped my mind”.

Do you know that there are different coping mechanisms that people have developed when issues arise in marriage? For instance,  there were mothers who would pick up house chores and get lost in it as they hum a song. If you run into them suddenly, you may witness them wiping a tear.

Worship is not a coping mechanism. It is a command from the Lord. When the pressure mounts in your marriage- financial or any other form, the first person to speak with is and will never be your spouse. You will put a load on them that they cannot bear.

1 Peter 5:7 NLT

Give all your worries and cares to God, for he cares about you.

When you kneel in worship and in prayer, you would have handed all the worries and cares to the Lord. By the time you rise, you will be having a conversation from the posture of clarity and not from conflict or confusion.

The principle is simple:

Take the rant to God.

Talk with your spouse.

Do not rant to your spouse and then talk to God. Don’t pour all that emotional outburst on your spouse. They are not made to carry that load. Cast your cares upon the Lord.

Even when you eventually hold a conversation with your spouse, the poison would have been removed. You would be speaking from a healed heart and not a poisoned one.

Practise this. See the difference. 

temilOluwa Ola, Eruwa