THE HUSBAND THAT WILL BE RESPECTED (1)

Irewamiri told a young man, “Do you know how much my husband was earning when he asked me out?” Five thousand naira, and he was giving out four thousand every month. But one thing he had was a sense of purpose”. I was smiling where I was. 

It was a purpose with pursuit. It was a purpose with proof, even if it seems little. There was not so much to show materially, but she knew deep within her that I had a sense of direction and a drive within me to keep at it.

Apostle Paul told Pastor Titus of Crete that one course that must be included in the curriculum for raising men must be “The Art of Earning Respect”. 

Titus 2:2 NLT

Teach the older men to exercise self-control, to be worthy of respect, and to live wisely. They must have sound faith and be filled with love and patience.

There is a way a man lives that makes him well respected. Respect is important to men. Respect must be earned and not demanded. You must command the respect of your wife and your children.

The first thing about a man who will be respected is that He is a man of vision. Vision here means he has caught a picture of God’s blueprint for life, and he is courageous enough to follow through. 

Do not be like some described here: 

Ecclesiastes 10:15 NKJV

The labor of fools wearies them, For they do not even know how to go to the city!

Is there the vision of a “city” to go to- a destination?

Do you know how to get there? If you don’t, you will labour but wear out everyone around you. 

I know money is important (and may you have an abundance of it), but if your sense of worth comes only when you have money, you are a ‘small’ man. Nabal had money but lost the respect of Abigail. She had a greater respect for a man who sent men to beg for supplies. 

Provision means “Pro Vision”. Provision follows vision. What vision do you have? 

Like Abraham, do you have a place you are going? Can you communicate the vision with enthusiasm that your wife would buy into and even men like Lot would consider going on an adventure with it? 

I asked a dear mother once, “Why did you follow your husband to Eruwa in the early 80s. There was literally nothing to gain?” She said, “All his friends met with me and told me that I should refuse to go with him, maybe he will change his mind, but I told them I am going all the way with him”. 

By the time we were having this conversation, what the husband saw on the inside had become a massive institution on the outside. 

Dear husband, are you a man of vision? Are you a man on a mission? Are you living like a daydreamer? Do you have light and revelation? Do you have the audacity to follow through? Are you building all the necessary competence for the vision, or are you just indulging in wishful thinking? 

A man of vision will always be respected!