THE HUSBAND THAT WILL BE RESPECTED 4

A few years into marriage, we hit some turbulent waters financially. We had a night of unresolved matters. The situation at home triggered issues that left a cold atmosphere all night. I woke up to a “Memo” from Irewamiri. She had a lot of questions. I had no answers.

I was in some shock. After I dropped her off at her place of work, I called my spiritual father and sought counsel. He said to me, “Pastor Temi, your seeds and giving would be meaningful when you already have a plan for your marriage and your family. If you do not have a plan for your family, whatever you sow as seeds in any form would lead to issues. Go and make sure you plan well for your family”.

A husband who will be respected does not take care of every other person at the expense of his family. Some men are hailed outside, but the home has questions.

A man of God said someone asked to know what kind of Christian a man was. His response was instructive: “I cannot tell you yet. I have not met his wife”.

The father in the faith said, “Personally, I would never form an estimate of a married man until I have come to know his wife because she is his glory. If she is radiant and restful and secure, her husband has earned my respect. But if, on the other hand, she is frustrated and nervous and insecure, I have to conclude that there is some area of failure in the husband”.

Because of man’s desire for respect, there is a way you may be tempted to become a “messiah” for everyone else while your marriage becomes a sacrificial lamb. You can give a ride to others, but if you do not apply the same thoughtfulness to your marriage, you have not done well.

I have also met wives who say that their husband is not the “perceived public impression” that most have of them. It is mere reputation management.

Dear husband, are you doing more for others than you are doing for your wife? Are you building a public image at the expense of your marital responsibilities? That would not be a wise thing.

Remember the house built on sand that was hit by storms. It took a while until the storms hit.

Matthew 7:26-27 AMP
[26] And everyone who hears these words of Mine and does not do them, will be like a foolish (stupid) man who built his house on the sand. [27] And the rain fell, and the floods and torrents came, and the winds blew and slammed against that house; and it fell—and great and complete was its fall.”

What are you building? Will it last? Would it survive the shaking?