THE HUSBAND THAT WILL BE RESPECTED (10)

We wanted to move to a new house. When we eventually got home, it was standing alone somewhere in a developing area. Our next neighbour was some distance away. I did not like the place, but my wife said she was great with it. Since we were in the same city, my parents visited the house and shared my feelings. 

Some weeks later, I was driving home, and the Holy Spirit said, “That is the house”. I put things in motion for movement. My mum felt it was Irewamiri who convinced me and had a conversation with her. It was a pressurizing conversation. She could not respond. 

I had to call for a conversation. I spoke with honour and yet firmly, stating it was my decision. I knew it was out of their heart of care. We moved into that house and lived there peacefully for about four years, with so many memories. 

A man who would be respected knows that when any part of the body is attacked, it is the mouth that speaks. The mouth is a part of the head. Even when the mouth does not speak, the brain, which is also in the head, sends signals to other parts of the body. 

Beloved, the head responds. Think about the parts of the head:

The Eyes mean the husband must be a man of vision.

The Ears mean the husband must be open to feedback.

The Mouth means that he is the one who speaks the blessing over his home. And with the teeth, he can also bite if need be. 

The Nose means that he must be the one who brings life into the marriage. If that is blocked, there will be trouble. 

The Brain means that he is the processor who sends signals to and receives signals from all the parts of the marriage and family. He cannot be “brain-dead”. 

This is why it is a man who leaves his father and mother who can cleave to his wife. 

Genesis 2:24 NKJV

Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.

If decisions in your home are made or influenced by your family directly or indirectly, you are not ready to lead as a husband. If you are still emotionally tied and can be controlled by your mum or dad, you will not be respected. 

Why should we hear the voice of Jacob but see the hands of Esau? Why should we keep seeing the invisible hands of your parents calling the shots in your marriage? 

Please, dear husband, lead with courage! You are a man and no longer “mummy’s boy.”