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HOW TO BUILD A RICH WORD CULTURE IN YOUR HOME (2)

In the first few months of marriage, we had occasions to disagree. One of the questions I often ask Irewamiri is, “What is the Spirit of the Lord saying to you now?” She would not respond, and our disagreements would linger for hours. Oftentimes, after we had resolved the issue, I would go back and ask the question again. Her […]

HOW TO BUILD A RICH WORD CULTURE IN YOUR HOME 1

The man came back home drunk. As he walked into his living room late that night, his first daughter who was still very young said (in Yoruba language), “Senseless man! He has gotten himself drunk again”. Where did the young girl learn it from? The mother! The hurt and bitterness of the mother have been sown as a seed in […]

THE WEIGHT OF WORDS IN MARRIAGE AND FAMILY LIFE (7)

Some years back, I was sitting beside Irewamiri at home. I told one of the young ladies at home that day, “Let us go and have a daddy-daughter talk.” By the time I came in, Irewamiri had gone inside. Our atmosphere was cold for two days. I knew something was wrong. Eventually, I got the full picture from her. The […]

THE WEIGHT OF WORDS IN MARRIAGE AND FAMILY LIFE (6)

After the early morning school runs, we had a little time to get ready and head to work. I stepped out of the room and saw Irewamiri pressing her phone. The first thought that came to my heart was, “Why on earth would she be pressing the phone? Even the living room is in disarray. Is it because we have […]

THE WEIGHT OF WORDS IN MARRIAGE AND FAMILY LIFE (5)

It was a pretty interesting week. Irewamiri and I had quite some intense disagreements. Amazingly, it was happening at the end of a personal fast. We struggled through it that week. We spoke quite some weighty words to one another. I remember telling her, “I am afraid of you”. She responded that she was tired of me and that I […]

THE WEIGHT OF WORDS IN MARRIAGE AND FAMILY LIFE (4)

I still remember the exact spot where we were that day. Irewamiri sneezed, and I said to her, “Same to you.” She exploded. “Are there any words of kindness in your diary? What happened to ‘Sorry dear’ or ‘Bless you dear’? What is the meaning of ‘Same to you.’ It is better not to speak at all.” I was in […]

THE WEIGHT OF WORDS IN MARRIAGE AND FAMILY LIFE (3)

A husband shared about how they were in a meeting, and while everyone else was saying sweet things to their wives, he was actually speaking out of bitterness and making his wife cry. He said, ‘I did not know how to be a husband.’  By the time he shared his testimony, there had already been a significant shift. Some people […]

THE WEIGHT OF WORDS IN MARRIAGE AND FAMILY LIFE (2)

About two years into our marriage, we were on the way to church on a Sunday morning. I called Irewamiri and handed over to her all I had on me that morning. I said to her, “Darling, this is all I have on me aside from our offering for today. Please let’s use this token to buy some things after […]

THE WEIGHT OF WORDS IN MARRIAGE AND FAMILY LIFE (1)

I still remember very vividly the woman in labour. I was about ten years old. She kept laying curses on her husband, who was not in the hospital at that time. As a young boy, I was surprised. They were too heavy for my head to process. The matron cautioned her at different times, but when the elderly matron could […]

“WHAT CAN MAKE YOU LEAVE YOUR WIFE?”

It was the final class of our pre-marital counseling. Our counselor asked a very important question. He said, “What is one thing that can make you leave your wife?” I smiled and responded without blinking, “Whatever will make Christ leave the church.” The Reverend looked at me with an interesting look and said, “Let us be realistic.” I smiled and […]