BROKEN PEOPLE DO NOT HAVE BROKEN HOMES

It was a Sunday morning and Irewamiri and I had a bit of a disagreement. In a bit to both drive home our points passionately, we seem not to be getting one another. Since I knew that I had to get early to church, I went in to prepare. 

After some minutes, I told her I was heading to church and that I had left the car behind for her to use while I strolled till I get a commercial bike. 

About a hundred metres away from the house, the Holy Spirit said to me, “Go back and hug her. Tell her you are sorry and that you love her”.

I returned home immediately. I met her at the dining area fixing breakfast for the children. I hugged her. I apologized. I told her that I love her. 

If your ego is more important than the prompts of the Holy Spirit, you will destroy many things with your stubbornness. At times, that would include your marriage. Whatever two believers refer to as an irreconcilable difference is simply saying, “Our ego is more important than forgiveness” or at least one party is resisting the nudge of the spirit. Either way, ego is somewhere in the equation. 

A broken husband and a broken wife can never have a broken home. When a home breaks, there is always an unbroken spouse. The sacrifice of God is a broken heart and not a broken marriage. 

What does it mean to be a broken believer? It means to be fully yielded to the Word of the Lord and the instructions of the Holy Spirit even when you have your right to fight for. Obeying God is more important than your personal preference. 

There are many homes that the Lord would have helped but self and its twin, selfishness has kicked out selflessness. 

Self is promoted when personal altars of devotion and fellowship are neglected. If you no longer study the word and pray, self will be getting fat. Your heart will be getting hardened. Little by little, the fence you are constructing to shut out the Holy Spirit and divine counsel will be completed. You should stop that construction work now. Abandon the site and demolish every imagination and thought that has exalted itself above the knowledge of God. 

We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ. 

2 Corinthians 10:5 NIV 

A broken man knows that it is about obeying Christ. A broken woman knows that it is first about holiness and not happiness. Whatever makes you holy has the joy of the Lord in it.

Are you a broken husband?

Are you a broken wife?

Your answer determines a lot- Will it be a broken home?

Someone has to stand up and do the same thing I did. Go and hug your spouse. Apologize. Confess your love. Kick out ego. Begin afresh. 

temilOluwa Ola, Eruwa.