HANDLING HURTS (10): INSIST ON JOY!

I was walking down the staircase in Fajuyi Hall during my university days. A young man suddenly ran into me from the back forcing me down the stairs. I struggled to maintain a balance. When I got my stability, I turned around and smiled at him asking if he was not injured in any way or if he was fine. […]

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HANDLING HURTS (9): DO NOT ALLOW MISINTERPRETATIONS OF INTENTIONS

Almost ten years ago, I was attending a major conference hosted by my grandfather-in-the-faith. Just after one of the morning sessions, I was finding my way to the carpark. He spotted me while he was walking with some of his guests and he said, “Son, wait to see me”.  It was quite tasking going through protocol to access the waiting […]

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HANDLING HURTS (8): BREAK THE CYCLE OF OFFENCE

It was an interesting season in our lives. Challenges with those we loved began to mount pressure on our marriage. We both had the best interest at heart but it just seems not to come out the right way. In the middle of it, we spoke unintended but hurting words to one another. I remember leaving home that day and […]

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HANDLINGS HURTS (7): WHEN SIBLINGS HURT

It was just the two of them, but the wedge between them seemed to get bigger. It was fanned by a financial disagreement that lingered just beyond normal. During the season, a near-fatal disaster happened to one of the siblings. A distant relative called and said, “Your brother said that you deserve whatever your eyes see.” Without confirmation, they both […]

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HANDLING HURTS (6): WHEN YOUR PASTOR “HURT” YOU

I started out in ministry without a strong fathering relationship. However, by divine mercies, I got into a learning relationship with my grandfather in the faith. He would answer my questions and give me as much audience as possible. I would also attend monthly ministers’ meetings, during which ministers were mentored and trained. At different times, he told me, “I […]

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HANDLING HURTS 5: BEFORE YOU RESIGN IN ANGER

About six years ago, I read a book titled “Honours Reward” by John Bevere and I saw a testimony that has not left me since that day: A man worked in a company. There were three of them on the same level, but it was obvious by assessment and performance that he outclassed all the others. When it was time […]

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HANDLINGS HURTS 4: THE WOUNDS OF YOUR SPOUSE!

In the few minutes ride, he shared with us about how he suffered a great loss. I initially was not interested in the story but the Holy Spirit prompted me to listen carefully. I exercised patience.  He ran into a financial crisis. He was swindled by his friend. It was in some millions. He also got relieved of his job. […]

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HANDLING HURTS 3- THE WOUNDS OF AN “EX”

As I returned from a moment of prayer that evening, I spotted a young lady to whom the Lord had me say a word. I obeyed. The lady picked a part and vehemently refused the other part which was about forgiveness. I enquired why it was hard to forgive.  She was in a relationship for some years with a guy. […]

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HANDLING HURTS 2: THE PAINS OF A FATHER

The elderly man looked at me and said, “What kind of son does that? I made up my mind that I would have nothing to do with him. He is a useless son. All the things he has done with his money are already depreciating. Even when I was sick, I refused to touch anything that belonged to him”.  He […]

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HANDLING HURTS 1- A CHILD HURT BY HER DAD

As I stepped out of my office that afternoon, I saw a young lady crying. I walked up to her to console her and make enquiries about why she was crying. She looked up and said, “I wish it was my father who died”. I was taken aback. She narrated how their dad had abandoned her and her siblings since […]

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