BEYOND “I AM IN LOVE” (19): DO WE HAVE THE RIGHT EXAMPLES?”

Irewamiri and I struggled for a long time to find that unforced rhythm of cooperation in some areas of our lives, especially when it comes to ministry. I remember episodes where she would say, “Darling, please kindly take on the work of ministry. It seems to be causing quite some disagreements”.  It was a touchy area. As much as we […]

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BEYOND “I AM IN LOVE” 18: DOES HE OR SHE CONSIDER YOU AS “OVER-AMBITIOUS?”

We were having a heart-to-heart conversation recently. Irewamiri mentioned that in the early days of marriage whenever she mentioned anything about her dreams, I would make a sound and then grow quiet. I never knew I was behaving that way. She said, “I thought I was over-ambitious”. She began to tone down on her dreams and conversations about them until […]

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BEYOND “I AM IN LOVE” 14: ARE YOU ON THE SAME PAGE ABOUT VALUES?

A dear sister suffered heartbreak and found solace in the hands of a childhood friend who had been asking her out. She did not heal before committing to a new relationship.  One day, she had a reason to visit her boyfriend – he was ‘sick’. She broke all her rules that day. She drank alcohol for the first time in […]

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BEYOND “I AM IN LOVE” 13: DOES S(HE) HAVE WORDS THAT LIFT?

Some years ago, as we prepared for Sunday Service, I gave Irewamiri some money and I said, “Darling, this is all I have left aside our offering for today. Please, use this token to buy some things we may need”. Her response still rings a bell in me to date. She looked at me and said, “You are a blessed […]

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BEYOND “I AM IN LOVE” (12): HOW DOES S(HE) BEHAVE DURING A CONFLICT? 

During our courtship, I visited a dear father in the faith, and he asked an interesting question: “Have you ‘fought’ with Oyeronke before?” I responded in the negative.  He smiled and told me his story:  He agreed to everything his wife said in courtship. In the early days of marriage, he had reasons to tell her, “No, you cannot do […]

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BEYOND “I AM IN LOVE” 11: ARE WE HEADING THE SAME WAY?

That evening when my friend returned to her base, I spoke with her mum. The question asked was loaded, “Pastor, I thought you were going to follow my princess home”. I apologised but I knew there was no way that was going to happen. We got pretty close, we bonded as friends, and we loved each other but our direction […]

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