RECOVERING FROM A FALL (3) – ACCOUNTABILITY 

I hugged Irewamiri and said to her, “Thank you for pointing that slip out to me. I am really grateful”. She smiled and said, “You gave me permission to do that”. I smiled. What was it I said to her? I told her, “Darling, you see what I do not see. Please always point it out to me when you […]

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RECOVERING FROM A FALL (2) – THE CONFESSION STAGE 

A man of God shared the story: While he was still raw and untrained in the ethics of the prophetic (especially as it applies to personal prophecies and the church), something happened to him. He got the privilege to lead a vigil in his church many years ago.  The moment he got on the pulpit. The first words that came […]

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RECOVERING FROM A FALL (1) – THE DENIAL STAGE

There was a person caught in the web of adultery. There was evidence of an affair all over. When caught, this person cried and even went ahead to confess that if not for the fact that the affair was exposed, it would have been very hard to stop. Some days later, the story changed, that it was just a test […]

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DEAR HUSBAND, CHOOSE YOUR WIFE ONLY

Just a few days before my wedding, a dear teacher sat me down and gave me a full session about sexual intimacy. He taught me many things scripturally and biologically. There was something he said that I will never forget. I have shared the same lesson with everyone I have mentored towards marriage. It is a life-saving statement. He said […]

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SEEK TO UNDERSTAND YOUR SPOUSE 

A young husband shared with me about how displeased he was with his wife, but he did not want to get offended. One evening, his wife was commenting about how relieved she had been, and he responded that, “It is because you have been receiving help”. The wife agreed and mentioned the young lady who had been working with her.  […]

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SCRIPTURE NOT SENTIMENT

A dear teacher said he told his wife, “In this marriage, I do not have an opinion and you do not have an opinion. We only do what the Word of God says we should do”. They both agreed that their marriage would be governed by the Word of the Lord.  It is one of the finest marriages I have […]

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DISTRACTION CAN “STEAL” YOUR SPOUSE

At the early stage of our marriage, I was the phone presser. I would return from work and get on my phone, responding to messages and chatting with others. I neglected the wife God gave me to nurture. One day, she had said something thrice, and I did not hear her once. She left me to myself. I only saw […]

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A BAD IMAGE DOES NOT MEAN YOU WILL GET IT RIGHT

There was a brother who vowed that he would never repeat his father’s mistakes. He hated his father for his terrible attitude- the man beats his wife. He vowed that it would never happen to him. At a point, he was encouraged to forgive his father, but he found it difficult. He could not.  Some years later, as a married […]

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IN MARRIAGE, YOU NEED THE RIGHT IMAGE

A dear teacher shared about how he loved visiting his uncle and his wife as a young man. He made it a priority to always visit them. Why? There was love, joy and peace in their home. There was something different about their marriage.  It was different from his parents’ marriage, where the voices were either loud or totally silent. […]

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“CHRISTIANS AND COHABITATION: WHAT’S THE BIG DEAL?”

I had reasons to interact with the executives of a Christian Youth Organization. One thing led to the other, and I learned that one of the females has a pattern of housing her fiancé whenever he comes around. I was in shock. When I asked her questions, she said, “Sir, he comes from far and we do not do anything […]

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