STOP HIDING!

There was a standing rule by the Dad of our childhood friends – no games on weekdays. Another standing rule was that “You read till noon on Saturdays before you can have access to games.” They had the highest number of childhood games in the neighbourhood- TV games, Handheld Games (Nintendo), Board Games, and even bicycles. How do you want […]

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COUNSEL TO PIONEERS (IF YOU ARE STARTING A NEW THING): 8

After I had done the first six months as a church pastor, I sent a mail to my Pastor. He did not respond to the mail, but graciously, we got to see when I visited the city for a meeting.  I was already getting excited and becoming proud of the community work we were involved in as a young church […]

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COUNSEL TO PIONEERS (IF YOU ARE STARTING A NEW THING): 7

As we stepped out of the morning session for the biggest event of the year in my spiritual grandfather’s ministry, he spotted me while heading to his office with some of the guest ministers. He said, “Son, make sure you see me before you leave.”  It was a tussle getting into the office area because of all the heavy protocol, […]

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COUNSEL TO PIONEERS (IF YOU ARE STARTING A NEW THING): 6

A few months into starting in ministry, I needed to help a friend speak with someone, but I had no airtime. So I messaged my friend the contact of the person instead. I knew she would be attended to once she mentioned my name.  She was shocked that I did not have airtime to make a call. “Ah! Do you […]

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THE MOST ESSENTIAL INGREDIENT FOR A GREAT MARRIAGE

As we drove away from the place of the interview, I told Irewamiri that the singular most essential ingredient for a great marriage is training. Once the Lord revealed to me that Irewamiri was the woman to marry, I knew I had to seek the counsel of my Spiritual Father. I sought an appointment with him. When I eventually saw […]

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HOW TO PROTECT YOUR MARRIAGE FROM THE INVASION OF INFIDELITY

As we discussed a matter, Irewamiri said, “Darling, such matters do not spring up suddenly. They must have been fornicating as singles”. She was right!  Most marriages that struggle with infidelity struggled earlier with self-control in courtship. You should be physically attracted to one another and with a desire to sleep with one another- that is part of God’s plan […]

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DO NOT COVER UP WHAT CAN DESTROY YOUR MARRIAGE 

There was a Sunday afternoon that issues just began to brew. Irewamiri and I did not seem to find our sync and rhythm. She even strolled from the house for some hours. We would normally resolve all matters, no matter what, before going to bed. That night, I pranked her, but it solved the matter. I told her that our […]

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HOW TO CULTIVATE PATIENCE AND TRANSFORMATION IN MARRIAGE

Irewamiri and I were in a conversation about the early days of marriage. She said, “In the early days of marriage, I used to wonder if I was in bondage. I could barely do anything or go anywhere by myself. You would always find a way to oppose my decisions”. I told her, “I was only being caring. My intent […]

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BUILDING RESILIENT MARRIAGES (VI)

After the birth of our first daughter, it did not take up to a month before my wife and I noticed that we were gradually drifting apart. All attention was on our new baby. Irewamiri suddenly had sweet words for Danielle. You hear “my love” or “I love you” a couple of times daily, and I become jealous. Friends, some […]

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BUILDING RESILIENT MARRIAGES (V)

It was a trying period. We were gradually coming out of it due to the counsel of teachers. Our emotions have come under severe stress. We looked at the season, and the challenges at the time raised many questions. Fortunately, we had a chance to hang out with another couple- our friends. We were vulnerable as we shared our experiences. […]

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