DEALING WITH STRANGE ATTRACTIONS AFTER MARRIAGE 6

I went home with a group of friends many years ago. When we returned to base, most of my friends were telling me how much they loved our home, the connection between my parents and the strength of friendship that they witnessed.

For years, I thought all homes were like that until I realised that there were families where the husband and wife live together without any form of friendship. It was all just formality. Some would walk away if they ever had the chance.

If you are not deliberate with sowing the seed of friendship in your marriage, weeds of emotional disconnection will spread all over the place.

Invest in your wife or husband. Give them full attention. Do not give it to a stranger. If you give that attention to your spouse, what will you get or what will you see?

Proverbs 5:15-17 NLT

[15] Drink water from your own well— share your love only with your wife. [16] Why spill the water of your springs in the streets, having sex with just anyone? [17] You should reserve it for yourselves. Never share it with strangers.

Build friendship with your spouse. Friendship is strong. It can be a defence. Be intentional. Here are some simple tips that can help you:

Would you begin to invest in both casual and deep conversation with your spouse? It refreshes your union.

Why not plan to take a walk together about three times a week? It can become a bonding time.

When last did you play games together? Do you even believe in taking a vacation or a “day-cation” (one day out together)? Start from somewhere.

When last were you spontaneous about intimate expressions in your marriage? Are your silent coded communication patterns still intact, or it has all died? Do you still long to display affection by holding hands and giving warm hugs, or has it all become a thing of the past?

Do you know you can get it back if you are intentional?

Invest in friendship. Do not waste your efforts on a stranger.

©️ temilOluwa Ola, Eruwa