HOW THINGS GET LOST (8) – IGNORANCE OF PROTOCOL

A dear one shared with me how he lost the opportunity for deeper access to a prominent figure. The person gave him huge platforms twice at major events where he gained visibility. Interestingly, he even got an offer to serve at the Federal Level of governance, which he declined. It was that kind of opportunity that was rolling in.

One day, this prominent figure invited him for a meeting. That was where he made a mistake- he went along with a “friend.” The second mistake was allowing that friend into the space where he was to meet this benefactor.  

His talkative friend took over the room. He broke all principles of decorum. He interjected in their conversations without invitation. The benefactor was quiet. He also was quiet. He knew most likely what was going through his mind: “If you can have someone like this really close to you, it says a lot about you.” 

That was how he lost that opportunity for deeper access. They still relate, but that opportunity was lost. 

Settle it quickly: Greatness has protocol. 

A protocol is defined as a system of rules that explain the correct conduct and procedures to be followed in formal situations. 

Joseph knew the protocol of engagement with Pharaoh. He did not wear prison clothes. He shaved also. He did not just say I am favoured; he also operated with wisdom. He was liked and respected because he dealt with wisdom: 

The Acts 7:10 ICB

Joseph had many troubles there, but God saved him from all those troubles. The king of Egypt liked Joseph and respected him because of the wisdom that God gave him. The king made him governor of Egypt. He put Joseph in charge of all the people in his palace.

Esther was also very wise. She had no deep relationship with the king, so she listened and took the counsel of someone who had been serving the king for years. 

Esther 2:15 ICB

The time came for Esther to go to the king. She asked for only what Hegai suggested she should take. (Hegai was the king’s eunuch who was in charge of the women.) And everyone who saw Esther liked her. 

It is wisdom to listen to the counsel of those who understand the protocol of the things and places you desire.  

Solomon discussed protocols in Proverbs: 

Do not boast. 

Proverbs 25:6 TPT

Don’t boast in the presence of a king or promote yourself by taking a seat at the head table and pretending that you’re someone important.

Take note of the sitting order.

Proverbs 25:7 TPT

[7] For it is better for the king to say to you, “Come, you should sit at the head table,” than for him to say in front of everyone, “Please get up and move— you’re sitting in the place of the prince.”

Jesus taught about the same in Luke 14:7-11. It is better to be called to prominence than to be removed because someone more important arrived.  

What other protocol of relationships do you know? 

© temilOluwa Ola, Eruwa.