IN MARRIAGE, YOU NEED THE RIGHT IMAGE
A dear teacher shared about how he loved visiting his uncle and his wife as a young man. He made it a priority to always visit them. Why? There was love, joy and peace in their home. There was something different about their marriage.
It was different from his parents’ marriage, where the voices were either loud or totally silent. There was no right picture of what a true marriage should be. He could not go ahead to marry with the kind of image he had seen.
Today, he has a beautiful marriage. His anger tendencies are all gone. His home has become a model and a blessing to many other homes.
Image is everything. It is tough becoming what you have not seen. You must fight for the right image.
Do you remember the flock of Jacob? They reproduced what they had seen.
Genesis 30:37-39 NLT
[37] Then Jacob took some fresh branches from poplar, almond, and plane trees and peeled off strips of bark, making white streaks on them. [38] Then he placed these peeled branches in the watering troughs where the flocks came to drink, for that was where they mated. [39] And when they mated in front of the white-streaked branches, they gave birth to young that were streaked, speckled, and spotted.
Sometimes your desire is different from your image, but you still reproduce according to your default. You want to be a great husband, but all you’ve ever seen is an uncle or father who acted like a lion devouring everything in his path; you will likely do the same.
There are times when the image you have is that of a popular figure. You have grown your fantasy level because of ‘make believe’ in movies. You then become frustrated when it is not working.
When the Lord blesses you with the right image, be grateful. When you have a picture of a great husband and family man who values his wife and protects his family, you are blessed indeed.
Life is easier with examples. Journeys are tougher without examples. Examples are like cheat codes. If you have a decision to make and you have someone who has modelled it to you, you are blessed. If you have decisions but lack a template, you will likely gamble through it.
There are times I want to do a thing, and my wife would say to me jokingly, “You will come and tell me where you saw that example”. We would then have a great laugh together.
When marriage hits a crisis, the blessing of the right image is mostly absent. When there is a bad image or no image at all, it is like building without a plan. It is like flying without direction, you will wind up anywhere!
Do you have the right examples?
© temilOluwa Ola, Eruwa
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