OVERCOMING PORN ADDICTION 7

A dear wife who loved her husband dearly reached out to their spiritual father to inform him that the man was trapped in porn addiction, and she had to open up. The spiritual father reached out and called for a meeting.

When the man was on the way, he felt angry that his wife reported him but suddenly, the Holy Spirit said these words to him, “You are going home. With your father, what you have is help and never shame”. That was the game changer. He became open about his struggles and walked away free from addiction. 

Shame keeps you in the addiction because it will keep you away from accountability. If you will defeat the stronghold of porn, you must uproot it totally.  Sin thrives in secrecy.  It wants to lurk away in the corner. It does not want to be exposed. Exposure most times gives it a death knell.

Once the enemy tells you that accountability will shame you, that is one of his final strategies to keep you in the prison of addiction. Break that lie. It is a ploy.

There are times people that I do not know or pastor at all reach out to me under the cover of anonymity to talk about their addictions to porn or masturbation. Every time I ask why they are not talking to their pastors, they either mention that they do not want their pastor to be disappointed in them.

Beloved, that was the error of King Saul. He knew that he had been caught in the trap of dishonour to God. When he was confronted, he still told Prophet Samuel to honour him before the people. If you want reputation over sound character, you will not become free.

I Samuel 15:30 NKJV

[30] Then he said, “I have sinned; yet honor me now, please, before the elders of my people and before Israel, and return with me, that I may worship the Lord your God.”

This is how we behave at times- I have sinned but honour me. Let’s still package me like I am okay.

Reputation is packaging of all your struggles while you still go-ahead receiving accolades. When the devil disgraces, he does not do it ‘codedly’. He does it openly.  Disgrace the devil before he disgraces you.  Come out and open up about that struggle. Come out and open up.

If you will be free, you must break that grip of shame that makes you fight anyone that should hold you accountable. Remember what the LORD said to that young man, “You are going home. There is help at home not shame”.

If God has blessed you with a pastor who loves genuinely, go and open up. Tell your spouse not to help you cover your sin. Do not bring Achan’s curse on your family. Do not cover it up.

temilOluwa Ola, Eruwa