THINGS TO SETTLE BEFORE MARRIAGE (5)

When we returned from our one-week break after the wedding, someone complained that there were people who did not get to eat at our wedding. My response was simple, “Can I have a list of those who complained that they did not eat so I can know the list of people to unfriend. Both my wife and I do not […]

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CLASSIC SERIES: COUNSEL TO A YOUNG WIFE (7)

There were days she slept right between us. We wake up and talk to her first before talking to one another. There were times I told Irewamiri that she uses more endearments for Danielle than she has ever done for me. You will hear things like, “My baby, my love, good morning”. We were drifting apart. Dear young wife, there […]

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CLASSIC SERIES: COUNSEL TO A YOUNG WIFE (6)

My dear teacher looked at me that day and told me these parting words about sex in marriage, “No matter what happens, do not take yourselves too seriously. Keep learning. Keep exploring till you get better”. Dear young wife, do you want me to tell you the truth? You must learn about sex. For your husband, it is a major […]

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CLASSIC SERIES: COUNSEL TO A YOUNG WIFE (5)

In the space of two weeks, we had argued about almost everything. Little things will bring sparks. I spent a while meditating on what the challenge might be. After one of such disagreements, I gently sought the audience of my wife and told her, “Darling, I noticed that it has been an overwhelming season for you- things have gone so […]

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CLASSIC SERIES: COUNSEL TO A YOUNG WIFE (3)

The whole church pulled a fast one on me that evening. As I stepped up to teach at the conference, they screamed, “We love you, Pastor Temi”. They supported it with placards. In a rush, a lot of things came flashing by. I loved and appreciated the moment. I remember telling Irewamiri afterwards, “No matter the public approval and accolades […]

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CLASSIC SERIES: COUNSEL TO A YOUNG WIFE (2)

As we drove out that evening, I had an internal debate about whether I should talk to my wife or not. I finally told my wife, “there is something I would like to tell you, and I hope you will not be annoyed”. We have had our fair share of misunderstandings in our few months of being married. I spilt it […]

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HOW NOT TO KILL YOURSELF

I followed my pastor to a church for a Stewards’ Vigil at another church some years ago. My Pastor preached like fire. Till now some of the statements he made still ring out loud in my head: “God is not in the business of maintenance. He keeps making things better. If you cannot make it better. Quit”. He was challenging […]

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DO NOT JOKE WITH EXAMPLES

The Lord led my wife and I to give a particular gift to someone. Some days after he came to me and said, “Pastor, about two years ago, you were preaching and you said, ‘For instance, I am giving (I mentioned his name) a (I mentioned the gift)”. He then added, “Pastor, now you have done exactly what you used […]

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“TEMI, SEE YOUR MATE…”

About two years into the work of ministry in Eruwa, I travelled to Ibadan and ran into one of my coursemates at the university. We exchanged pleasantries for a bit. He was coming from a court outside the state. We caught up a bit on old times. When we were done, as he drove off, the devil said, “Temi, see […]

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BEFORE MORE… SAY THANK YOU FIRST!

Danielle had been with mum in the kitchen- clearing dishes alongside. It was a sweet adventure for her. Mum was also making Moin-Moin (a delicious delicacy made from blended beans that taste amazing when cooked in special leaves) and she was helping with the process. At a point, Mum had to relieve Danielle of some of the technical parts of […]

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