DISTRACTION, A SILENT KILLER OF INTIMACY

I did terribly as a young husband. One evening, I returned from work, and as my habit was, I picked up my phone and began to press it. I did not know Irewamiri had called me three times in an attempt to tell me something. I was so distracted that I did not know when she left our bedroom to […]

There is love in sharing

OVERCOMING DISTRACTION (10): REFUSE TO GET INTO UNNECESSARY COMPETITIONS

As we walked towards the car that evening, Olive ran ahead to the car. As we got to the car, she called out to her sister and me, saying, “I got to the car first.” Danielle’s response was simple but profound. She said to her, “I am not in competition with you.” If you will overcome distraction, you must get […]

There is love in sharing

OVERCOMING DISTRACTION (8): DO NOT JOKE WITH THE MORNING 

A dear mentor told me a long time ago that he loves hotel rooms where there is a little notepad or jotter by the bedside alongside a pen. When he saw I was curious, he said to me, “The last thing you should do before going to bed is to take note of what you want to do the next […]

There is love in sharing

OVERCOMING DISTRACTION (5): LEAVE THE ‘NO DEMAND’ ZONE

My parents told a story about how my brother fell sick as a little boy. It was late in the night in Eruwa when they got a referral to the city of Ibadan. Dad would not take chances to wait till morning. They drove that same night, for almost two hours to get to the city. Why? Life was at […]

There is love in sharing

OVERCOMING DISTRACTION 4: FROM HIGHFLIER TO AVERAGE

As a secondary (high) school student, the session began with some amazing decisions. I would have new notes, a blue or black pen accompanied by a red one, and a ruler. The goal was to have a neat and complete note. Who was like me?  It always started well. I would write the date in the top left corner. I […]

There is love in sharing

OVERCOMING DISTRACTION 3: DISTRACTION BEGINS WITH ATTRACTION 

The first time I fell in love had some unforgettable moments. I had fallen head over heels. It became so bad that if I was heading to pray and the babe requested a meet-up, I would postpone my prayer time just to see her. It was becoming a distraction.  One day, while I was spending time in prayer, I heard […]

There is love in sharing

OVERCOMING DISTRACTION 2: THE THIEF OF TIME

I stole meat from the pot as a young boy. It was quite bad that Mum had to start counting the pieces of meat in the stew. Like a genius, I adopted the slim-fitting pattern. Rather than steal a whole piece of meat at a go, I would take small portions off each chunk. The pieces of meat in the […]

There is love in sharing

OVERCOMING DISTRACTION 1: THE DISTRACTED GENERATION

My Dad would at times spend time playing with us as kids. We would always get into mock boxing. It was not the real deal. Dad was a professional (at least in our eyes). He would make a move as though he was going to kick your stomach. As you attempt to cover your stomach, he would attack another part […]

There is love in sharing