“WHEN I WAS “TOASTING” YOU, WAS IT STRESSFUL?”
Some time ago, Irewamiri took a trip to Lagos. We got chatting when she was returning and I asked whether I should pick her up in Abeokuta. She asked me, “Would that not be too stressful?”. I did not know when I said to her, “When I was ‘toasting’ you, was it stressful?”
It is so easy for the human mind to forget commitment and become familiar. You must train your mind not to slip into familiarity. Familiarity kills the flames of intimacy.
There are marriages now that have slipped into familiarity. The husband no longer treats the wife like a queen and the wife no longer attends to her man like a king. The man does not go the extra mile for the wife again. Now the meals are casually served. It does not matter even if it is cold.
It is also the same as the relationship of some with the Lord Jesus Christ. The prophet Jeremiah had this to say to the nation of Israel:
“Go and cry in the hearing of Jerusalem, saying, ‘Thus says the Lord: “I remember you, The kindness of your youth, the love of your betrothal, When you went after Me in the wilderness, In a land not sown.
Jeremiah 2:2 NKJV
The statement would have been a testimony except that it was all in the past- they went after God but not anymore. They had lost the passion they used to have. They used to go after God but now complacency has taken over their commitment.
When you are in such a position, just one thing becomes instructive-
But I have this against you: you have abandoned the passionate love you had for me at the beginning. Think about how far you have fallen! Repent and do the works of love you did at first. Revelation 2:4 – 5 TPT
You need to get that groove back. You need to get the passion back. Your fellowship with God needs new flames. Blow away the ashes and let a new spark return.
Do the same for your marriage- plan deliberately for your spouse. Do something that you used to do when the flames of romance were still quite hot. Give a treat. Offer to do something. Go the extra mile.
In the name of Jesus, the flames of love in your fellowship with God will come aglow. I also pray for a new passion in your marriage. Amen.