GODLY PRINCIPLES FOR MARITAL BONDING (2)

Someone reached out and asked me a simple question: My husband and children have relocated. I am the only one left in the country. I have a great job here, and I am not too sure I want to relocate. I have been praying to confirm if the alord would want me to relocate. I have not really heard from the Lord. What should I do? 

At another time, it was the man who was left in the country. He had relocated his wife and his children. He also had similar concerns. He was also praying about it. He also wanted to know what he should do. 

Beloved, anytime there is confusion in a marriage, the problem is never far-fetched. We know that God is not an author of confusion. So, when there is confusion in any marriage, either both parties are not heeding to the Lord, or one person is not heeding to the Lord. 

Let us simplify it, do not waste time trying to pray over what the Lord has spoken about expressly in His word. It would be sheer hypocrisy. There are things the Word of the Lord is very clear about. One of them is the place of oneness in marriage. 

There is something called leaving to cleave: 

Genesis 2:24 KJV

[24] Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. 

What does cleaving mean in the Word of God? It means to cling, abide fast together and to follow. 

Second, whenever there are issues of bonding and staying together as one in a place, it would always be about the unwillingness of man. 

Genesis 24:5 NIV

The servant asked him, “What if the woman is unwilling to come back with me to this land? Shall I then take your son back to the country you came from?”

It would be either one or both parties that are unwilling. 

What was Abraham’s response to this question? 

Genesis 24:6, 8 NIV

“Make sure that you do not take my son back there,” Abraham said. 

If the woman is unwilling to come back with you, then you will be released from this oath of mine. Only do not take my son back there.” 

Matters like this are best sorted in courtship. If you wait till after marriage to have these conversations, you are already late. 

God wants you and your spouse to be one. Your reasons for living apart may seem genuine, but would you trust the Lord and follow His Word fully? That strain in your union fades away when you follow the Word with meekness, and you let go of the unwillingness. 

May your marriage stand!