ADULTERY DAMAGES YOUR CHILDREN
When I asked why that person was not married, the response was, “All that happened between my dad and my mum is enough discouragement from getting married”.
There was a father who kept affairs while he was married. Two of his own sons also followed his pattern by impregnating ladies as young men. I am sure you have stories of such patterns that you can point to, also. Another son is battling similar marital struggles.
Adultery has a heavy impact on your children. It damages them heavily. A young one saw the Dad defile his marital bed. The image remained a battle. He has no idea that the child saw him. There is another who is just angry at life and at men. Why? The pain of seeing adulterous affairs impacted her mind heavily.
A young man battled outbursts of anger. He would be angry over little matters. His victory came when he realized that it was bottled-up anger from seeing his father pursue an affair while abandoning him as a child.
Let me scream it again- Your actions may seem personal. You may even say that it was a mutual thing between two consenting adults. No matter the justification, there is something that is outside your control- the impact of the seed you have sown in the life of your children. When it sprouts and speaks, the harvest would shock you.
First, your children will likely repeat the same pattern. Did you see Amnon raping Tamar? Did you see that Absalom, who hated what his father did so much and was angry with Amnon, did not escape the same pattern? He murdered Amnon and raped more than one woman. He called his vengeance, but the enemy rejoiced because he had him in his grip.
Second, it is hard for your children to trust you. It was because Absalom could not trust his father to judge the matter between Amnon and Tamar that he took matters into his own hands. His actions were disastrous. It shook the family and the entire nation.
There are times when such children find it hard to trust their own spouses, also. Some ladies expect their husbands to behave exactly like their dad. In fact, there is a generation that is told, “Your husband will have an affair along the way, just be ready for it”. It is now broken people transferring patterns to broken people.
Spiritually, the home also becomes very porous. When you break the edge, you create room for the serpent. When you dig a hole, it can become a grave.
Can the action of parents impact their children? Yes!
Jeremiah 31:29 MSG
“When that time comes you won’t hear the old proverb anymore, Parents ate the green apples, their children got the stomachache.
Do not give your children stomach aches because of your action.
©️ temilOluwa Ola, Eruwa.*
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