By the time she was crying out for help, the man was already using his entire salary to gamble. There was a particular month that he gambled away their entire savings. At a time, he gambled away his wife’s salary alongside his own. What started as a little test to try it out had become a behemoth that cannot be […]
The wife voiced out, “Pastor, he only thinks about himself. He puts himself first”. The husband also felt the same way, “My wife does not care about us. She puts herself first. She will hold on to her money when I am in need. I have made up my mind never to ask her for anything.” Greed is one key […]
In the early days of ministry, I would carry on like a “macho man”. I would take on every task without thinking of involving my spouse. There were times I did things without carrying her along. They were innocent mistakes coming from “I don’t want to bother her”. But about three years ago, we visited two beloved families who were […]
“DD, are you crying?” That was the question that my mum asked my dad that unforgettable evening. A storm just hit their union. After a protracted battle with eye issues, we returned home to the news that Mum could not see again. Dad wiped off his wet eyes. I wonder a thousand times what passed through his mind in seconds. […]
After my session with a dear one, he went home and began to make adjustments in his mindset to certain things in their marriage. Some days later, the wife told him that when he saw that he maintained a grandstand on some of the issues they had, she stopped raising it or arguing about it. The interesting part was when […]
As she kept mentioning all the habits she could not bear in her husband, I smiled and smiled. Why? I saw who I used to be in the early days of our marriage. I was a bad listener. I would conclude her statements assuming I knew what she wanted to say. Most times, she would just tell me not to […]
The way they sat, I had to ask them, “Did you both speak at all to one another in the past twenty-four hours?” The silence was the culprit. They had to say no words. I was shocked. Then I asked, “Why?” The answer was silence again. I looked at both of them and said, “You did not feel like talking […]
There was a time when we had quite some financial constraints. The day came when all the matters came to the surface. They refused to be buried. Our communication broke down. The atmosphere at home was very tense. I knew something had to be done. I reached out to my spiritual father and sought counsel. The counsel he gave changed […]
Just a few months after our wedding, we realised that Irewamiri was waking up with backaches. We did not know what the matter was for a while. Eventually, we realised it was our mattress. We decided to swap it with a lower bed and a softer mattress. Her complaints about backaches disappeared. We were glad. We thought the problem had […]
After we had exhausted a particular fund we would use for the home, I transferred some money to Irewamiri. When I told her, all I heard was “Okay”. At that moment, my mind went into research mode about the “Okay”. I began to ask why the response should be a mere “Okay”. What happened to “Darling, thank you”? As I […]
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