BEYOND “I AM IN LOVE” 7: ARE YOU ATTRACTED TO HIM/HER? 

I was shocked when my mum (who is deeply spiritual, tongue-speaking, and in the generation of baby boomers) asked me a question that I had never given thought to. We were in her kitchen that evening. She dropped the bomb: “Temi, what do you love about her body?”  I was caught off guard. I had never thought about it. I […]

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BEYOND “I AM IN LOVE” 5: IS HE MERELY CULTURAL OR CHRISTLIKE? 

In the early days of my parent’s marriage, they had my Dad’s mum and younger brother living in the house with them for a season. During those days, issues began to brew gradually. My uncle would not do anything and would expect to be served like a king while my Grandma would give him support while trying to intimate the […]

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BEYOND “I AM IN LOVE” 4: HAVE YOU DISCERNED WHO S(HE) IS?

A beloved one brought the lady he intended to marry. When she visited, we had some great time of interactions but I honestly did not hold back on sharing with her about the burdens of marrying a young man in ministry, especially in the location we were.  All we knew was that she disappeared after the visit. When she would […]

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BEYOND “I AM IN LOVE” 3: DO I AGREE WITH HIS OR HER DOCTRINE?

The first time he visited her church. It was a prayer meeting and at a point, they were requested to bring out water so it could be used as a point of contact in prayer. He was not too comfortable with it so he did not respond to her “kind” gesture of having a bottle of water. The wife-to-be noticed […]

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BEYOND “I AM IN LOVE” 2: DO NOT MARRY PACKAGING!

As the young man spoke with me, I could count the number of times that he said to me, “Papa told me…”. He repeated it so much that I had to ask him, “Who is Papa?” He then mentioned that he meant God. As much as I believe in the importance of a believer hearing God, it becomes a thing […]

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BEYOND “I AM IN LOVE” (1): IS (S)HE SHOWING SIGNS OF GROWTH? 

When she saw all the red flags that were so visible all over the union, the pastor called the young lady who sought counselling and told her truthfully with love, “If you are to be my own daughter, I would tell you that the young man is not prepared for marriage. He has a lot of growing up to still […]

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MY GRANDPA’S UNIQUE WALL CLOCK

We holidayed quite a lot with my late grandpa. We would spend days there alongside our cousins. It was always loaded with fun. Part of the fun was the joy of running out to see the wall clock perform its magic each time an hour struck. At the stroke of the hour, a bird would come out and chime the […]

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“I DID NOT SEE ANYTHING BAD IN IT”

I had reasons to interact with the executives of a Christian Youth Organization. One thing led to the other and I got to know that one of the females has a pattern of housing her fiance whenever he comes around. I was in shock. When I asked her questions, she said, “Sir, he comes from far and we do not […]

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‘I PLAY FOR SO AND SO CHURCH’

I was really excited to see a young man whom I had known for years again. It was a mini reunion howbeit by the roadside. I knew him as a committed member of a local church back in the day. I then asked him, “What church are you now?” His answer was, “I play for so and so church”. I […]

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