CONVERSATION WITH ANOTHER PASTOR

A few years back, I noticed that there was a slightly consistent record of guests (who turned into attendees) in our church who came from another church in the vicinity. I became bothered. Guess what I did? I visited the Pastor and discussed this with him. I told him what I observed and said, “Is all well sir? Is there […]

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DEAR HUSBAND AND FATHER, WAKE UP!

I noticed the car was veering off the lane. I looked into the eyes of our driver and noticed that he had slept off; his eyes were slightly closed. I tapped him to wake him up. I kept ensuring he stayed awake. In every family, the father (husband) is the driver. If he sleeps off, he can cause the family […]

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DEAR HUSBAND (4)- THE BODY MUST NOT FEEL THE WEIGHT OF THE HEAD

My dear teacher said to us “When a person is moving, it is a seamless cooperation between the head and the body. That is a sign of good health. However, when the body begins to feel the weight of the head, there is already sickness in the system” When you have a headache, for instance, the head becomes heavier. The […]

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DEAR HUSBAND (3)- DON’T REPORT YOUR WIFE 

She asked me, “Pastor when I have an accountability relationship with my mentor or pastor, would it mean that I have to report my spouse to them when he or she misbehaves?” Dear husband, one thing that must never happen is that you begin to report your wife to your parents or your in-laws. You will be shooting yourself in […]

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DEAR HUSBAND (2)- PRAY FOR AND WITH YOUR WIFE

She was in a funny mood that morning. I kept praying under my breath for her all through the morning. She was giving me short-word answers even though we had no misunderstanding. As we drove to work, I asked that we join hands and pray together. She did not want any of it. I wondered what was wrong. Just before […]

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DEAR HUSBAND (1) – DO NOT FROWN ABOUT FINANCES

I found it very hard telling her what the Lord said to me. I could not. What if she took advantage of it? But the next morning something happened- she needed some money. God had said to me a day earlier, “Whenever your wife asks for anything, do not grumble. Give her more. Even when you do not have it […]

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HOW TO HANDLE HURTS

I looked at my proteges that night and said to them, “I pray the blessings of the Lord more for those who hurt me”. They obviously needed more explanation. I did not know when these words dropped from my mouth, “Every hurt is a test for me. The Lord checks my attitude. He checks my heart”. Honestly, offence will surely […]

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DO NOT PROTECT THE WRONG SPOT

Dad played a lot with us while growing up. One of our regular games was ‘playful’ boxing. We still do some of these things. Dad would lift his hand as though he was aiming for your side. While you try to protect your side, his hands are already landing somewhere on your head. We kept defending the wrong spot. That […]

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DO NOT SUFFER A BLOW- (Do not sit on the fence)

I was visiting a doctor friend at work when I saw a young lady with a fully swollen mouth. My friend said to me that she has a broken jaw. That was even worse. How did she get it? She got in between two people exchanging blows in a bar. First, there is no in-between in the things of the […]

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THE QUESTION I DID NOT ANSWER

He looked at me that night after we exchanged pleasantries and said, “What do you do?” “I pastor sir” I responded. The next question was, “What is the name of the church?” I replied him. “Did you start the church?” He queried. “Yes, I did” I responded. The next statement was not one I was prepared for. He said, “So […]

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