DO NOT CROSS - DRAW BOUNDARY LINES

As an undergraduate, I went to preach somewhere. I noticed that the eyes of a young lady seemed to square with mine at all times my eyes went in that direction. I was not comfortable. One way or the other, some of the folks in the church got to ask for my contact (these days I am wiser. I would refer them to their pastor). The lady in question got my contact also.

The calls began to roll in evening after evening. I indulged the calls but one she called as usual and spoke till she said, "I don't even know what to say again". I replied, "Eeyah! I know what to say". She definitely got excited. I simply said, "Good night" and I dropped the call. That was the last time I had such moment.

You must know when to draw the line. What started with a simple phone conversation can become an obsession with attention. If you crave attention, you will do anything to have it. If there was no discussion, there would be no seduction. If there are snake conversations, there will be no sneaky moves.

Admittedly, getting and receiving attention is sweet but you need to be careful. Draw the line fast. Some brothers have been calling sweet names and putting sisters in the "prison of emotional expectations". Stop it! Draw the line.

You wake her up in the morning with sweet words and check up on her with "Have you eaten?" in the afternoon and close it with "Dream of me" at night. Be careful brother and sister.

If you are a minister of the gospel, the pressure to make people feel at home around you can make you cross emotional lines. Stay ministerial. Focus on your assignment in their life and destiny. You must know when to draw the line.

“…Show mercy to still others, but do so with great caution...” Jude 1:23 NLT

Make sure that showing care does not become carelessness. Do not pour emotional strength into a convert whom you are meant to groom spiritually. Do not cross the lines. If you notice that you are becoming attached to a person you are counseling, refer the person to someone else.

We do not want sorry tales of "good intentions gone south". At times, the trap of godly men and women is a good intention. Dear brother, when she is crying and you are alone with her, do not hug her to console her. Let me repeat, do not hug her! Know when to draw the line.

Dear sister, do not start collecting his gifts and calling him names. It is better you make your stand known.

Finally, marriage is not an excuse for you to let down your guards. Married people also get into the trap of adultery while trying to fill the emotional void of another man or woman. Do not give anyone else the attention your spouse deserves!

“Now all glory to God, who is able to keep you from falling away and will bring you with great joy into his glorious presence without a single fault.” Jude 1:24 NLT

Pray: Lord, keep me from falling. Amen.

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