HANDLINGS HURTS 4: THE WOUNDS OF YOUR SPOUSE!
In the few minutes ride, he shared with us about how he suffered a great loss. I initially was not interested in the story but the Holy Spirit prompted me to listen carefully. I exercised patience.
He ran into a financial crisis. He was swindled by his friend. It was in some millions. He also got relieved of his job. It was a tough time for him as a man. He had a great job and about three cars. He had just one car left with him. He resorted to logistics so he could cater to his family.
He made an amazing discovery that wrecked his home. In the middle of the crisis, he got to know randomly that his wife was undertaking a massive project behind his back. It broke him. They lived together but merely as flatmates. Even though the wife begged for forgiveness, he had found it hard to let go. He could not imagine he was struggling that much yet his wife who had the means to support him was using her funds for a secret project.
I spoke with him as led by the Spirit of the Lord. I said to him, “This situation will not turn around except you forgive your spouse and find time to go to that massive project to bless it from your heart”. He broke down publicly and began to cry like a baby.
“I cannot do it, Ah! I cannot do it” was all he could mutter as he cried. I told him there was grace available if he yielded in obedience to the Lord as a believer. He agreed. We prayed together.
God is turning that home around today.
Beloved, your spouse can hurt you. They can say words or act in a way that hurts you. Husbands can hurt their wives and wives do hurt the husband. There are hurting men who are only coping with their wives and there are hurting wives who are only coping with their husbands.
Some have started taking steps to protect themselves in case of the eventuality of a divorce or separation. Trust is lost in the marriage. Pride, hurt, pain, and hatred have taken up rooms in their home.
Hurt has led to “irreconcilable differences”. There is no sin that cannot be forgiven if there is a willing and yielded heart to the Lord. There are only unwilling hearts and stubborn adults who lack brokenness. If you have attended your own “funeral”, then it is always possible to witness the resurrection power of God in your marriage.
You cannot hold on to hurt and hold on to your home at the same time. You will have to lose that grip on hurt. Holding on to the hurt may look like a defence so you are not ‘hurt again’ but trusting God and obeying Him is your real defence. Time will not heal the wounds, only obedience to the Lord and submission to the Holy Spirit will.
forbearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye.
Colossians 3:13 KJV
Do you want to carry that hurt to the grave? Do you want to pass on poison to the next generation about their dad or mum?
What do you gain?
temilOluwa Ola, Eruwa