I went to minister in a church some years back. I was in my final year at the University. I noticed that every time I looked in a particular direction, a young lady’s gaze was constantly on me. 

After service, I was interacting with a small group of people in the church. I cannot remember whether she was there or not but I know some of the youths got my contact (It is better to refer those who need your contact to the host pastor. It is ethical. We learn as we grow). 

That evening, I got a call from her. She just wanted to check on me. She asked how my trip was. Subsequently, the calls became frequent. There were times she would call and I would put the phone on speaker while I do other things. I just pretend to follow the conversation.

It all ended one evening. She called and after talking for a while, she said, “I don’t even know what to say again”. I smiled and said, ” And I have something to say”. I did not know what she was expecting but I simply said “Good Night”. That was the end of the calls. 

 Do not be “attention-hungry”! Some of those who go around calling people sweet names are hungry to be called those names also. You have ” Sweetheart”, “Bestie”, “Darling”, and you even added numbers to them like “Sweetheart Number 16”. Be careful. Stop pretending to be loving when it is just a cover-up for your needy state. 

Instead of saying sweet things to sisters and brothers all over the place, listen to the counsel of Veteran King Solomon:

Say to wisdom, “I love you,” and to understanding, “You’re my sweetheart.” 

Proverbs 7:4 TPT 

Spend that energy and strength to build wisdom and understanding. You need it. Why is this important? Wisdom and understanding will protect you: 

“May the two of you protect me, and may we never be apart!” For they will keep you from the adulteress, with her smooth words meant to seduce your heart. 

Proverbs 7:5 TPT 

Deal with that your smooth mouth. You are a young pastor and you enjoy the attention the sisters in the church give you. You are swimming in a pool of crocodiles. It will eat you up. 

Stop those compliments about their clothes, shape and looks. Stop the “It is your eyes for me” or “It is your lips for me” or “You are just a 100 yards wife material”. Stop that nonsense. Stay in a safe lane. Now, you have four sisters who are waiting on your flattery. Be careful. You enjoy it but a young lion looks like a pet until it tastes blood. 

You must be discrete. You must be polite. Kill the desire for strange attention. Stop scheming and manipulating to get attention. Face your spiritual growth. God will always honour you. 

Be blessed. 

May you not take the wrong steps. 

There is love in sharing

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