HOW TO CULTIVATE PATIENCE AND TRANSFORMATION IN MARRIAGE

Irewamiri and I were in a conversation about the early days of marriage. She said, “In the early days of marriage, I used to wonder if I was in bondage. I could barely do anything or go anywhere by myself. You would always find a way to oppose my decisions”. I told her, “I was only being caring. My intent […]

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BUILDING RESILIENT MARRIAGES (V)

It was a trying period. We were gradually coming out of it due to the counsel of teachers. Our emotions have come under severe stress. We looked at the season, and the challenges at the time raised many questions. Fortunately, we had a chance to hang out with another couple- our friends. We were vulnerable as we shared our experiences. […]

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BUILDING RESILIENT MARRIAGES (IV)

That Sunday, my wife looked into the congregation as she taught and said to them, “I troubled my husband in the first two years of our marriage.” I smiled at her. I knew what she meant. She told them the truth. Of late, we also wonder at how much we have grown in bonds. We laugh at mistakes we made […]

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DO NOT MARRY “A BABY”

Some months ago, I remembered an action of mine that I thought was proof of great spirituality back then in the university, and I was surprised at how ‘simple’ (in the proverbs dimension) I was. For a while as an undergraduate, I was not rooted in any local assembly on campus. I was getting blessed reading spiritual books. I was […]

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DEAR HUSBAND, EMBRACE HUMILITY AND SECURE YOUR MARRIAGE

We were going through an interesting season as a couple- our little savings could not fix the problem on ground. In the middle of the crisis one morning, I woke up to a lengthy memo from Irewamiri. She suggested a move that negated one of our core values and principles as a family.  Dear husband, needs can push a family […]

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Build Deep-Spirited Friendship in Marriage

I proposed to Irewamiri while I was also her pastor. When she eventually said ‘Yes,’ I felt I had a huge responsibility to see her grow and become that “ministry material.” In the first few days of courtship, I began to load her with Kenneth E. Hagin’s study manuals. Our meetings were like that of a student and her teacher. […]

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BE GRATEFUL FOR A WIFE THAT ASKS QUESTIONS

That evening, Irewamiri asked me, “I wanted to confirm from you, why did you tell ___ that story while speaking to so and so?” I quietly explained. There are times that I would buy things (even for her) and after she has appreciated it, “She will ask me, ” My husband, where did you get the money for this?” Especially […]

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MATTRESS: HARD OR SOFT?

My wife has jokingly concluded that she will always ask “about to wed” lovers, “What type of mattress do you like?” Why? For a really long time, she endured waking up each day on our tall bed and high (and hard) mattress. I did not know what she was going through until she voiced out her aches. As a loving […]

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BROKEN PEOPLE DO NOT HAVE BROKEN HOMES

It was a Sunday morning and Irewamiri and I had a bit of a disagreement. In a bit to both drive home our points passionately, we seem not to be getting one another. Since I knew that I had to get early to church, I went in to prepare.  After some minutes, I told her I was heading to church […]

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