THE BEAUTY OF A SPOUSE WHO HEARS THE LORD

We were in a meeting when I sensed that the Lord would have us sow a seed. It was quite a tough one for me. I sent a message to Irewamiri about what I perceive in my spirit. She responded that the Lord was just speaking to her about the same thing. There was no argument. It was easier to obey God. 

It was not the first time. There was a time I shared excitedly with her about why God would have us make a particular decision- one that could have caused a rift between us. She said, “God told me the reason long before now. That is why I could agree with you easily when you mentioned it”. 

There is nothing as sweet as a home where the Lord is heard and obeyed. There is peace, joy, and progress. Paul mentioned the beauty of lives like that to the Phillipian church. 

If you’ve gotten anything at all out of following Christ, if his love has made any difference in your life, if being in a community of the Spirit means anything to you, if you have a heart, if you care—then do me a favor: Agree with each other, love each other, be deep-spirited friends. Don’t push your way to the front; don’t sweet-talk your way to the top. Put yourself aside, and help others get ahead. Don’t be obsessed with getting your own advantage. Forget yourselves long enough to lend a helping hand.

Philippians 2:1-4 MSG

In such a home, it is quite easy to agree with one another. You can make decisions easily. Sometimes in the middle of conflicts, you can hear the Lord clearly and you retrace your steps. A couple who truly hears and heed the Lord cannot sustain malice for a day. Their heart cannot take it. 

In such marriages, love flows freely. They are patient with one another. They have only kind words to share. There is no envy or selfishness. Anger has no room. They keep no record of wrongs. Why would such a marriage fail? It cannot!

In such marriages, friendship is deep. There are marriages where friendship has walked out. They are married but no longer friends. They cannot speak heart to heart. They are not playful with one another. The marriage looks like an office. When was the last time you laughed heartily? The kind of laughter that needs no control. The sound of laughter has left some marriages. I pray for restoration. 

In such marriages, they help each other get ahead. They are not in a competition. They do not take advantage of one another. They are not rivals. They are willing to lend a helping hand. 

Look through your union. Do you like what you see? Could things be better? The place to start is you obeying your own instructions from the Lord unconditionally. The problem starts when you wait for the other party to do their own part before you do yours. Focus on your obedience. You will not be judged for what others did or refused to do. You will be judged for what you did or refused to do. 

May the bond in your home be restored. 

© temilOluwa Ola, Eruwa