THERE WILL BE NO GROWTH IF YOU KEEP QUIET AT THE WRONG TIME

I was invited to lunch with a dear brother and his wife who were both widely travelled. The table looked great and inviting. There was just a challenge- the only thing I recognised on the table was potatoes. How would I eat what I was not familiar with? I had an option of keeping quiet and playing along or staying humble and learning. I chose the latter.

They introduced me to the meal. I was glad I asked questions. I would not be in a situation where I would be saying, “I have eaten it before but I do not know what it is called”.

Ask so you can grow. Ask honourably from men. You can even ask God questions. There is a difference between asking questions and questioning men or God. One is hinged on the desire to grow. The other may be rooted in pride.

Your questions do not intimidate or unsettle God. Men who ask questions for clarity always open up a portal of revelation or assignments that we did not know existed at the time. Gideon asked questions and a fresh assignment landed on his table.

Blame Thomas Didymus as much as you want, it was his refusal to keep quiet at some statements of Jesus Christ that brought us clarity about Jesus as the way, the truth, and the life and the fact that no one comes to the Father except by Christ. While others were keeping quiet and nodding when they did not understand, Thomas spoke up.

Thomas said to him, “Lord, we don’t know where you are going, so how can we know the way?” Jesus answered, “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me”.
John 14:5‭-‬6 NIV

“Lord we don’t know so how can we know?” Don’t you just love Thomas? If you do not know, admit you do not know. Do not say “hmmm”, ‘deep’ and other ignorance covering words to things you have no grasp on. Please ask!

Have you been in a classroom where all that was taught was sounding like Greek and the teacher asked, “Do you all understand?” Everyone chorused, “Yes”. Yet, you did not understand but you were scared of mob action. Listen! Be bold to ask.

You can learn directly from the teacher and get it right or you can get to ask from your classmate who is also still struggling to understand. If you keep quiet rather than ask teachers, you may be forced to copy classmates who equally lack understanding.

Stop learning how to be a great husband or amazing wife from the “Marriage is Scam and Men are scum Gang” that is all over the place. Sit down and follow the instructions of the Lord. Look closely at great marriages that have lasted many years and have produced mighty seeds. At least, by their fruit, you shall know them.

A lot of people are failing because they are trying to learn from those who are running a template of trial and error.

When you see your trainer, talk less and listen more. You will learn nothing until you learn to hold your mouth and open your mind. When questions hit your mind, ask for clarity and further insight. Let the deep call unto the deep. It changes everything. Wise people are products of following the wise.

The template of growth favours those who are willing to ask. Please ask.

temilOluwa Ola, Eruwa