Anytime Irewamiri and I have to take a road trip, we always had a silent desire to travel alone. There are times it is not possible though. Why? It allows us to talk and bond. We always return to base with our friendship sharpened and deepened. The things we talk about spark fresh flames of passion in our marital union. 

A lot of people are married but they are no longer friends:

The legal side of marriage is alive – they are judiciously wearing their rings, they have the certificate well kept, and they have children as proof that they have some measure of intimacy. 

The vital side of marriage is almost dead- they do not have any timeout together. Their conversation is always around the touchy issues of marriage. If it is not about bills, it is about the children. If it is not about inlaws, it is about food or church members. No sparks. Just pure routine. 

Have you ever wondered why some people divorce after all their children are away from home (when they have become empty nesters)? There was no friendship. Do something about the vital side of your marriage. 

Well! That’s how some people relate with God also. It is on record that they are born again. They are committed to their local assemblies but that is where it all ends. The vital side of their relationship with God is also dying. They have no personal devotion. They do not spend time in worship and adoration. They cannot say clearly the last time they heard the Lord. There are no vibes in the union. 

The easiest way to know that you are not servicing the vital side of your union is that you rarely talk about the joy in that union with others. A person in a struggling marriage does not have fun memories to share. A struggling believer does not share the good news about Christ with others. 

You need to take a trip that fires back your intimacy. Hear the Psalmist: 

He spoke about his desires for intimacy- As the deer longs for streams of water, so I long for you, O God.

Psalms 42:1 NLT

He was honest with himself about how things used to be: My heart is breaking as I remember how it used to be: I walked among the crowds of worshipers, leading a great procession to the house of God, singing for joy and giving thanks amid the sound of a great celebration!

Psalms 42:4 NLT

Your best flames for God must never be in the past. You must be ablaze continually. 

He tells us what to do- The deep must call unto the deep. Go back into the depths of conversation and intimacy. 

Deep calls unto deep…

Psalms 42:7 NKJV

He tells us the outcome- You will return with songs. When last did you sing to your spouse so lovingly? When last did you sing to God in privacy enjoying and soaking in his presence? I am not talking about the time of praise in church. 

But each day the Lord pours his unfailing love upon me, and through each night I sing his songs, praying to God who gives me life.

Psalms 42:8 NLT

Get the flames in your marriage back!

Get the flames in your spiritual life back! 

temilOluwa Ola, Eruwa.

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