Our very first visit as an intending couple to my Spiritual Parents was a tough time. The first question that my fiancée (as she then was) was asked made us heave a sigh of relief.
The question was simple but profound, “Has he slept with you?” She responded in the negative. And the next thing was “Tell us now so we can know what to do”.
Paul gave the church profound instructions when it comes to our sexual purity. Paul was not one to hide away from issues that bother on sex.
Paul said to us that “It is God’s will that you keep away from sexual sin as a mark of your devotion to him” (1 Thessalonians 4:3 GW)
Paul also said, “Don’t allow love to turn into lust, setting off a downhill slide into sexual promiscuity…” (Ephesians 5:3 MSG)
What is my point? You must have people in your life who are willing to ‘shake the table’. They must be able to ask you tough questions that will unsettle you. We know you have the Holy Spirit but you also need the Holy Brethren who will ask questions that keep you sane.
Sexual immorality is on the rise and it leaves no one out- preachers, businessmen, sound brothers and sisters. Even the best of men is still a man at his best.
Sexual sin will creep in mostly when you are in the wrong place at the wrong time. In courtship, sacrifice privacy for purity. Leave “behind closed doors” discussions into a “walk in the field” moment. Talk where people can see you. It is not old school. It is a kingdom sense.
Sexual sin will persist when you have no one who can question your decisions. Think about David- would he have asked to bring Bathsheba if someone he was accountable to was around at that moment? The more anointed you are, the more accountable you must be!
I sense there are people reading this now who are on the edge of a cliff but are blinded by the sexual pleasures. You are already protecting your reputation at the expense of your character and consecration.
You keep praying and asking for grace to stop but the next moment you are back in the same mess. You need to stop and turn around. You are on a downward slope. You may lose the trust of some men but you would have gained restoration and a new beginning with God.
Friends, you are not married until you are married. Stop sliding down the slope of sexual immorality. Sex is God’s gift to be unwrapped in marriage and not courtship.
If you are married, do not be ignorant of the devices of the devil. It is the day you have issues with your spouse that you will get attention from that colleague. They will appear finer than ever. Do not be overconfident.
The standard of God is that you present your entire body as a living sacrifice. If you are the sacrifice, you will need people around you who will use the “sword of God’s Word” to cut you into size.
Do you have such people in your life?