GODLY PRINCIPLES FOR MARITAL BONDING (6)
One of the toughest conversations I ever had with Irewamiri was at our dining table. She looked at me and said, “I don’t ever see us working together.” I was in shock, but deep within, I was calm.
We had issues bonding as a couple. I felt I was doing all I could honestly, but I did not know how. It felt like the labour of the fool that wearies everybody connected to him. I did not know the way.
A few months down the line, we were already working together, concentrating fully on the ministry, from morning till night and sometimes, even at odd hours.
How did we move that conversation at the dining table to serving the Lord together as a couple?
First, there is power in examples. Without examples, you struggle in life. If all you have known and seen all your life is couples struggling to get along in everything, no matter how much you try, you cannot replicate it. It will be like an elusive dream. God blessed us with examples in our Spiritual Parents. We saw how they did ministry, and we were helped by that image. We learnt a lot by observation.
Second, there is the need for meekness. Meekness makes a man teachable. Meekness allows you both to forbear one another as you blend and bond. You both know you are not perfect, but you give each other the benefit of growth. Meekness is powerful. The meek will be taught the way of the Lord. The meek are open to instruction and correction. It takes meekness to make adjustments also.
In meekness, we learnt from those who had learnt from our spiritual parents also. We asked questions. We got answers.
Ephesians 4:2-3 NLT
[2] Always be humble and gentle. Be patient with each other, making allowance for each other’s faults because of your love. [3] Make every effort to keep yourselves united in the Spirit, binding yourselves together with peace.
We used to say jokingly that I used Irewamiri to practise being a lawyer for many years. It was always “As your Lordship and the court pleases.” But today, there is no strain or stress working together.
I love Ephesians 4:3 in the Message Version:
Ephesians 4:3 MSG
And mark that you do this with humility and discipline—not in fits and starts, but steadily, pouring yourselves out for each other in acts of love, alert at noticing differences and quick at mending fences.
Will you pour out acts of love?
Even when you notice differences, will you be quick at mending fences also?
© temilOluwa Ola, Eruwa.
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