I have a dear friend that I adopted as a sister many years ago. I would visit her and the family. They had her Grandma living with them. I became a part of the family.

When she brought her man to the house to introduce to her grandmother also, grandma was confused and asked her, “How about the man in glasses who comes here often”. She smiled and said, “Temiloluwa is my brother”. We are still a huge family today.

Definition saves you from a lot of explanation. When things are defined, it brings in the ease of function also. A lot of people have gotten themselves into an emotional mess because they did not define what they are doing.

A brother keeps posturing around a sister. He wakes her up with a text message and sends her to bed with another one asides from the random “Have you eaten” during the day.

He escorts her to the salon and drives her sometimes from work. You even use endearments in your communication. She is not only your “bestie”, or a best female friend. You call her “Sweetheart”.

Definition saves you from explanation. She is hoping for the day you will pop the question but you keep leading her on. My brother, that is manipulation. It is witchcraft.

Sister, if you have such a man in your life hanging around you for months without any express intention, do not act under any assumption. Assume he is only a friend before he puts you into an emotional mess.

A broken friendship is better than a presumed courtship. Be bold. Walk away.

All things must be done decently and in proper order. Do not let anyone’s disorganisation affect your own emotions.

Let all things be done decently and in order.
I Corinthians 14:40 NKJV

Young men, do not cross the lines. Keep your friendship with the opposite sex pure and plain. Do not send out mixed signals. The Lord bless you and your posterity

temilOluwa Ola, Eruwa.

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