My wife and I have a principle for resolving conflicts but it took five years into marriage to see the spiritual importance of that principle. We both cannot sustain a quarrel overnight.
There are days I would say to her, “We are not stepping out of this house if we do not resolve our differences. Our home is more important than the work we have”.
At other times I would insist that we are not sleeping until issues are resolved and we are back on the same page.
Why is this important?
Often times we read Paul in the book of Ephesians where he said to us:
And “don’t sin by letting anger control you.” Don’t let the sun go down while you are still angry, Ephesians 4:26 NLT
Be angry without sinning. Don’t go to bed angry. Ephesians 4:26 GW
Beloved, what is the consequence of going to bed angry? It is hidden in the next verse.
“for anger gives a foothold to the devil.”
Ephesians 4:27 NLT
“Don’t give the devil any opportunity to work.” Ephesians 4:27 GW
What is the point here? Every time you go to bed angry, you have opened the spiritual atmosphere of your life for the devil to work for those hours. The devil does not need hours to wreck a life or a marriage.
Every time anger is knocking on the door, it is the devil seeking operational permission in your life, home or marriage- shut him out.
There are matters that should have been resolved before the sun went down that have lasted ten years and more now. The devil got entry and booked permanent space enjoying himself. A stranger became a guest because someone gave him the chance.
Every time you are tempted to get angry, you better say to yourself quickly, “not overnight. I will rise without offences tomorrow. I will see the new mercies in the new day.” Keep the devil out of your affairs.
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