ARE YOU TRACKABLE? 

In the era just before mobile phones became popular, my mum travelled to see my sister at the university. She returned with great joy, and I heard as she shared with my Dad:  Upon arrival at the school, they went to look for her in her hostel. When they announced her name over the Public Address system, another student came […]

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HANDLING HURTS (8): BREAK THE CYCLE OF OFFENCE

It was an interesting season in our lives. Challenges with those we loved began to mount pressure on our marriage. We both had the best interest at heart but it just seems not to come out the right way. In the middle of it, we spoke unintended but hurting words to one another. I remember leaving home that day and […]

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BEYOND “I AM IN LOVE” 5: IS HE MERELY CULTURAL OR CHRISTLIKE? 

In the early days of my parent’s marriage, they had my Dad’s mum and younger brother living in the house with them for a season. During those days, issues began to brew gradually. My uncle would not do anything and would expect to be served like a king while my Grandma would give him support while trying to intimate the […]

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BEYOND “I AM IN LOVE” 4: HAVE YOU DISCERNED WHO S(HE) IS?

A beloved one brought the lady he intended to marry. When she visited, we had some great time of interactions but I honestly did not hold back on sharing with her about the burdens of marrying a young man in ministry, especially in the location we were.  All we knew was that she disappeared after the visit. When she would […]

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HOW TO CULTIVATE PATIENCE AND TRANSFORMATION IN MARRIAGE

Irewamiri and I were in a conversation about the early days of marriage. She said, “In the early days of marriage, I used to wonder if I was in bondage. I could barely do anything or go anywhere by myself. You would always find a way to oppose my decisions”. I told her, “I was only being caring. My intent […]

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BUILDING RESILIENT MARRIAGES (V)

It was a trying period. We were gradually coming out of it due to the counsel of teachers. Our emotions have come under severe stress. We looked at the season, and the challenges at the time raised many questions. Fortunately, we had a chance to hang out with another couple- our friends. We were vulnerable as we shared our experiences. […]

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BUILDING RESILIENT MARRIAGES (IV)

That Sunday, my wife looked into the congregation as she taught and said to them, “I troubled my husband in the first two years of our marriage.” I smiled at her. I knew what she meant. She told them the truth. Of late, we also wonder at how much we have grown in bonds. We laugh at mistakes we made […]

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BUILDING RESILIENT MARRIAGES (III)

Sometimes ago, in the early days of our marriage, as I drove to the estate gate where we lived, the Holy Spirit said to me, “Go back home and apologize.” I made a U-turn. I returned home and apologized immediately to my wife. Interestingly, I did not even know that she was annoyed until the Spirit of God pointed it […]

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DO NOT MARRY “A BABY”

Some months ago, I remembered an action of mine that I thought was proof of great spirituality back then in the university, and I was surprised at how ‘simple’ (in the proverbs dimension) I was. For a while as an undergraduate, I was not rooted in any local assembly on campus. I was getting blessed reading spiritual books. I was […]

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