OVERCOMING DISTRACTION (10): REFUSE TO GET INTO UNNECESSARY COMPETITIONS

As we walked towards the car that evening, Olive ran ahead to the car. As we got to the car, she called out to her sister and me, saying, “I got to the car first.” Danielle’s response was simple but profound. She said to her, “I am not in competition with you.” If you will overcome distraction, you must get […]

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OVERCOMING DISTRACTION (5): LEAVE THE ‘NO DEMAND’ ZONE

My parents told a story about how my brother fell sick as a little boy. It was late in the night in Eruwa when they got a referral to the city of Ibadan. Dad would not take chances to wait till morning. They drove that same night, for almost two hours to get to the city. Why? Life was at […]

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NEVER ALLOW STRANGE INTERPRETATIONS

A young woman once called me and mentioned that someone asked her to reach out to me. She had a dream three times that she was picking snails. She was told that it meant she would be poor. I told her to do something simple: Go to a restaurant. Order a meal and request a snail instead of the regular […]

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HANDLING HURTS (10): INSIST ON JOY!

I was walking down the staircase in Fajuyi Hall during my university days. A young man suddenly ran into me from the back forcing me down the stairs. I struggled to maintain a balance. When I got my stability, I turned around and smiled at him asking if he was not injured in any way or if he was fine. […]

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HANDLING HURTS (8): BREAK THE CYCLE OF OFFENCE

It was an interesting season in our lives. Challenges with those we loved began to mount pressure on our marriage. We both had the best interest at heart but it just seems not to come out the right way. In the middle of it, we spoke unintended but hurting words to one another. I remember leaving home that day and […]

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HANDLINGS HURTS (7): WHEN SIBLINGS HURT

It was just the two of them, but the wedge between them seemed to get bigger. It was fanned by a financial disagreement that lingered just beyond normal. During the season, a near-fatal disaster happened to one of the siblings. A distant relative called and said, “Your brother said that you deserve whatever your eyes see.” Without confirmation, they both […]

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HANDLING HURTS 3- THE WOUNDS OF AN “EX”

As I returned from a moment of prayer that evening, I spotted a young lady to whom the Lord had me say a word. I obeyed. The lady picked a part and vehemently refused the other part which was about forgiveness. I enquired why it was hard to forgive.  She was in a relationship for some years with a guy. […]

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BEYOND “I AM IN LOVE” 14: ARE YOU ON THE SAME PAGE ABOUT VALUES?

A dear sister suffered heartbreak and found solace in the hands of a childhood friend who had been asking her out. She did not heal before committing to a new relationship.  One day, she had a reason to visit her boyfriend – he was ‘sick’. She broke all her rules that day. She drank alcohol for the first time in […]

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PARENTING DOES NOT HAVE TO BE HARD

We came back late from church that Sunday afternoon. Just before you could blink an eye and go through the Sunday afternoon routine of cooking, cleaning, and at least resting, Daddy was already at our door telling us it was time for the regular Sunday evening evangelism.  My brother would give none of it. I was too young to be […]

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WHEN THE CALL BECKONS

As I sat in my Dad’s green Nissan Primera that evening under the cashew trees in church, the Lord began to speak to me about my future. I picked up my journal and wrote eight things that about my life and journey as inspired by the Lord. I kept that moment and the encounters jealously. This was April 28, 2007. […]

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