DO NOT COVER UP WHAT CAN DESTROY YOUR MARRIAGE 

There was a Sunday afternoon that issues just began to brew. Irewamiri and I did not seem to find our sync and rhythm. She even strolled from the house for some hours. We would normally resolve all matters, no matter what, before going to bed. That night, I pranked her, but it solved the matter. I told her that our […]

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HOW TO CULTIVATE PATIENCE AND TRANSFORMATION IN MARRIAGE

Irewamiri and I were in a conversation about the early days of marriage. She said, “In the early days of marriage, I used to wonder if I was in bondage. I could barely do anything or go anywhere by myself. You would always find a way to oppose my decisions”. I told her, “I was only being caring. My intent […]

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BUILDING RESILIENT MARRIAGES (V)

It was a trying period. We were gradually coming out of it due to the counsel of teachers. Our emotions have come under severe stress. We looked at the season, and the challenges at the time raised many questions. Fortunately, we had a chance to hang out with another couple- our friends. We were vulnerable as we shared our experiences. […]

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BUILDING RESILIENT MARRIAGES (IV)

That Sunday, my wife looked into the congregation as she taught and said to them, “I troubled my husband in the first two years of our marriage.” I smiled at her. I knew what she meant. She told them the truth. Of late, we also wonder at how much we have grown in bonds. We laugh at mistakes we made […]

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BUILDING RESILIENT MARRIAGES (III)

Sometimes ago, in the early days of our marriage, as I drove to the estate gate where we lived, the Holy Spirit said to me, “Go back home and apologize.” I made a U-turn. I returned home and apologized immediately to my wife. Interestingly, I did not even know that she was annoyed until the Spirit of God pointed it […]

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BUILDING RESILIENT MARRIAGES (II)

We invited a special guest to a conference once. I was prompted to ask the wife to also share for about ten minutes. It was something else hearing from her. They had been married for years without the fruit of the womb. Medical reports said the husband had no sperm count.  To make matters worse, business investments went on a […]

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BUILDING RESILIENT MARRIAGES (1)

That evening, when we returned from the engagement ceremony of my Aunt. Mum made an unusual request. She wanted Dad to help her clear her dishes after eating. Dad obliged. Once Dad returned, she told him she could not see him again. Her sight was lost. Daddy lifted his hands, and she did not know the number of fingers. Daddy […]

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THE KEY TO A TRUSTWORTHY AND UNITED MARRIAGE

A young lady who had some level of access to us once approached my wife and said, “I want to tell you something, ma.” Irewamiri asked what the matter was. Instead of mentioning the issue, she asked my wife, “Has Pastor not told you? Maybe I should wait for him to tell you”. Irewamiri was wondering what the matter was […]

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IT IS BETTER TO STAY SINGLE IF YOU ARE UNWILLING TO DO THIS…

We had to step into a marital situation that was degenerating. When we got to ask questions, we realized it was a phone issue. It was shocking how a simple issue can fester to become so gangrenous. The husband insisted his wife could not and must not touch his phone. He said he does not touch her phone, so she […]

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