One of the hard jobs of a pastor would likely be that of confronting people with tough questions and challenging them to holy living. Sitting with that young man in my office that day took a lot of courage.
When I asked, “Have you been fornicating?”. His eyes dropped but his answer reflected the deficiency that hell fed on as a delicacy. He said, “We did not actually have sex”. My heart got heavy.
One of the warning signs that you must never ignore as a believer is what I called “a diminishing sense of holy living”. You look at the sin but you now have an explanation. You can fornicate as long as you did not go all the way. You did everything but “no sex”.
Purity is not the presentation of your private parts as holy unto the Lord. That is the idea that devil and his demons from hell would love you to have.
When God challenged you to Holy living through the Apostle Paul, he said:
I APPEAL to you therefore, brethren, and beg of you in view of [all] the mercies of God, to make a decisive dedication of your bodies [presenting all your members and faculties] as a living sacrifice, holy (devoted, consecrated) and well pleasing to God, which is your reasonable (rational, intelligent) service and spiritual worship.
Romans 12:1 AMPC
Did you see the words “your bodies” (all of your members and faculties)? That includes your mind. It also includes your lips. It includes your hands.
God wants all your body to be a vehicle of holy living. Your lips know no kissing. Yes! Don’t explain it away. Your mind is not thinking silly thoughts and is not filled with dirty images. And your hands are not touching any one in inappropriate ways.
If you are a couple looking towards marriage, resist that thought of “at least we will get married”. The day he proposes is not the day to kiss him. Why light your flesh on fire when you are not ready to take the meal.
Solomon taught us a vital lesson about purity. He said to us that: Your lips are like scarlet ribbon; your mouth is inviting…
Song of Songs 4:3a NLT
Have you seen a wrapped gift before? Have you been at the commissioning of a new project before? They always tie a ribbon to show that it has not been used. Your lips is to your body what a scarlet ribbon is to a new project. Don’t cut it if you are not licensed to use it.
On the day of commissioning, in the presence of witnesses and there is always a special guest, they get to cut the ribbon and then the project is then accessed (That sounds like your wedding day).
Do not commission a project that is uncompleted. What’s the hurry about?
Do not ignore that warning sign. Your sense of purity must never be reduced to “we can do anything as long as we don’t have sex”. That is hell pulling strings on your soul and the rhythm is never pleasant to heaven. Resist it!