BEDROOM SITUATIONS (Revised and Expanded)
I told my associate in the ministry office, “My brother, get me a house at all cost. I need an apartment even if it is one room, I need to move out of my parents’ house. It is time to be a man.” My request shocked him. I was very serious.
Later that evening in the place of meditation, the Lord told me “No”. I was safer living in my father’s house. Some months to marriage when I eventually moved out, three of the unit heads stayed with me.
Why? I was a single pastor. Living alone at that point was no big deal but I had to make a sacrifice for the integrity of the gospel. I did not want a situation where sisters had to be visiting a single pastor who lives alone. I did not want a situation where anyone misinterprets my lifestyle.
Paul spoke about this also to the Ephesian Church. He admonished them in clear terms:
But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God’s holy people.
Ephesians 5:3 NIV
Let no hint of sexual immorality be found in your midst. It means if another person will have a reason to draw immoral conclusions from your action – do not do it.
It means you cannot visit your fiancé or fiancée and then stay alone in the same room or even house. I know our generation has dropped the ball a lot but you cannot change biblical standards.
These instructions of God are like rail guards on a cliff- it protects is from our own tendencies.
You dont have a reason to be found in bedroom situations. Watch your steps.
It is dangerous to be with the wrong person in the wrong place but far more dangerous to be with the right person in the wrong place.
Intending couples can be tempted to have sex or just fondle a bit after the hottest prayer sessions (no jokes here). Pray in places where you wont be led into temptation.
Some people say things like, “We know we did not do anything. It is our lives”. Paul again has an admonition for you:
“For we are taking pains to do what is right, not only in the eyes of the Lord but also in the eyes of man.”
2 Corinthians 8:21 NIV
I know God sees your heart but men also weigh your visible actions. Remember, there must not be a hint of sexual immorality at all.
My friend, do it for yourself. Do it for the future. Do it for the sake of the gospel. Let no one be able to point a hand, shake the head and add “And he says he is a christian”.
Live your life as a believer in such a way that a sinner does not find justification for his sin in your conduct.