PARENTING DOES NOT HAVE TO BE HARD

We came back late from church that Sunday afternoon. Just before you could blink an eye and go through the Sunday afternoon routine of cooking, cleaning, and at least resting, Daddy was already at our door telling us it was time for the regular Sunday evening evangelism.  My brother would give none of it. I was too young to be […]

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HOW TO PROTECT YOUR MARRIAGE FROM THE INVASION OF INFIDELITY

As we discussed a matter, Irewamiri said, “Darling, such matters do not spring up suddenly. They must have been fornicating as singles”. She was right!  Most marriages that struggle with infidelity struggled earlier with self-control in courtship. You should be physically attracted to one another and with a desire to sleep with one another- that is part of God’s plan […]

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HOW TO CULTIVATE PATIENCE AND TRANSFORMATION IN MARRIAGE

Irewamiri and I were in a conversation about the early days of marriage. She said, “In the early days of marriage, I used to wonder if I was in bondage. I could barely do anything or go anywhere by myself. You would always find a way to oppose my decisions”. I told her, “I was only being caring. My intent […]

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BUILDING RESILIENT MARRIAGES (V)

It was a trying period. We were gradually coming out of it due to the counsel of teachers. Our emotions have come under severe stress. We looked at the season, and the challenges at the time raised many questions. Fortunately, we had a chance to hang out with another couple- our friends. We were vulnerable as we shared our experiences. […]

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BUILDING RESILIENT MARRIAGES (IV)

That Sunday, my wife looked into the congregation as she taught and said to them, “I troubled my husband in the first two years of our marriage.” I smiled at her. I knew what she meant. She told them the truth. Of late, we also wonder at how much we have grown in bonds. We laugh at mistakes we made […]

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BUILDING RESILIENT MARRIAGES (III)

Sometimes ago, in the early days of our marriage, as I drove to the estate gate where we lived, the Holy Spirit said to me, “Go back home and apologize.” I made a U-turn. I returned home and apologized immediately to my wife. Interestingly, I did not even know that she was annoyed until the Spirit of God pointed it […]

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BUILDING RESILIENT MARRIAGES (II)

We invited a special guest to a conference once. I was prompted to ask the wife to also share for about ten minutes. It was something else hearing from her. They had been married for years without the fruit of the womb. Medical reports said the husband had no sperm count.  To make matters worse, business investments went on a […]

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BUILDING RESILIENT MARRIAGES (1)

That evening, when we returned from the engagement ceremony of my Aunt. Mum made an unusual request. She wanted Dad to help her clear her dishes after eating. Dad obliged. Once Dad returned, she told him she could not see him again. Her sight was lost. Daddy lifted his hands, and she did not know the number of fingers. Daddy […]

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WISDOM FOR WINNING YOUR PARENT’S BLESSINGS

A beloved one had been trying to push for a while with his parents his decision to get married. He would make considerable progress, but he kept encountering roadblocks. At a point, they went totally silent. It was as though nothing was happening.  After a service one day, he came to me with a seed. I just had a prompt […]

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