MATTRESS: HARD OR SOFT?

My wife has jokingly concluded that she will always ask “about to wed” lovers, “What type of mattress do you like?” Why? For a really long time, she endured waking up each day on our tall bed and high (and hard) mattress. I did not know what she was going through until she voiced out her aches. As a loving […]

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BROKEN PEOPLE DO NOT HAVE BROKEN HOMES

It was a Sunday morning and Irewamiri and I had a bit of a disagreement. In a bit to both drive home our points passionately, we seem not to be getting one another. Since I knew that I had to get early to church, I went in to prepare.  After some minutes, I told her I was heading to church […]

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“I WANT TO BECOME A DOCTOR”

In my younger days, if anyone asked about what I wanted to become, I had no hesitation in saying, “I wanted to become a Medical Doctor”. I grew up seeing our neighbour practise medicine in an inspiring way. His son, myself, and another childhood friend started observing medical procedures at very young ages- we were less than ten years.  I […]

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“DADDY, YOU TAUGHT US…”

Danielle walked into my room with an activity book in her hands. She said, “Daddy, I am sorry. I accidentally tore my book while I was drawing on it”. I told her, “Girl, that’s fine. Be careful next time”.  The next thing she said was what shook me to my bones, “Daddy, you taught us that when we do not […]

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DEAR HUSBAND AND FATHER, WAKE UP!

I noticed the car was veering off the lane. I looked into the eyes of our driver and noticed that he had slept off; his eyes were slightly closed. I tapped him to wake him up. I kept ensuring he stayed awake. In every family, the father (husband) is the driver. If he sleeps off, he can cause the family […]

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SOME WARNINGS CAN BE VERBAL

A dear father had a strong pattern of indulging in alcohol. It was so terrible that at a point when the wife delivered a male child through Caesarean section. He left his wife in her state and went to drink with his friends. He was the late-night crawler.  One of such nights, he returned home drunk and his daughter said […]

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CHRONICLES OF PROCESS: WE COULD NOT AFFORD IT 

Some few months after our wedding, we were in a supermart and we needed to buy body cream for the family. I had no particular preference but my wife had the one she was using as a single lady. We headed straight to the section that housed what we wanted. When we saw the price, we looked at each other. […]

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CLASSIC SERIES: COUNSEL TO A YOUNG WIFE (7)

There were days she slept right between us. We wake up and talk to her first before talking to one another. There were times I told Irewamiri that she uses more endearments for Danielle than she has ever done for me. You will hear things like, “My baby, my love, good morning”. We were drifting apart. Dear young wife, there […]

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CLASSIC SERIES: COUNSEL TO A YOUNG WIFE (6)

My dear teacher looked at me that day and told me these parting words about sex in marriage, “No matter what happens, do not take yourselves too seriously. Keep learning. Keep exploring till you get better”. Dear young wife, do you want me to tell you the truth? You must learn about sex. For your husband, it is a major […]

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CLASSIC SERIES: COUNSEL TO A YOUNG WIFE (5)

In the space of two weeks, we had argued about almost everything. Little things will bring sparks. I spent a while meditating on what the challenge might be. After one of such disagreements, I gently sought the audience of my wife and told her, “Darling, I noticed that it has been an overwhelming season for you- things have gone so […]

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