I got several counsels ever since before I asked my wife to marry me. My spiritual grandfather told me, “Son, there are two very important things. First, be sure that you heard God. Second, do not marry a woman who does not believe in God’s vision for your life. If you do, you will be frustrated for the rest of […]
I was packing my bags to travel that morning. A young man had been trying to see me. I told him we could see briefly. He came in with all excitement. There is a lady he has spotted and would love to marry. Well! I was excited for him, too. But when he went on and on about what roles […]
During my service year, I was a student at the Insight Christian Leadership School. It was a full month of training school. We had a daily roster for leading prayer and giving exhortation. Coincidentally, the day I gave the exhortation of 10 minutes was the day of the General Pastors Meeting for the ministry. All pastors from various branches were […]
A young couple was spending some time with us. While interacting with them, we began to probe and ask questions about their union and especially their sexual bond as a young couple. We shared tips and educated them about things that will help their sexual bond and the actual act itself. At one point, we mentioned that pornography was not […]
By the time she was crying out for help, the man was already using his entire salary to gamble. There was a particular month that he gambled away their entire savings. At a time, he gambled away his wife’s salary alongside his own. What started as a little test to try it out had become a behemoth that cannot be […]
The wife voiced out, “Pastor, he only thinks about himself. He puts himself first”. The husband also felt the same way, “My wife does not care about us. She puts herself first. She will hold on to her money when I am in need. I have made up my mind never to ask her for anything.” Greed is one key […]
In the early days of ministry, I would carry on like a “macho man”. I would take on every task without thinking of involving my spouse. There were times I did things without carrying her along. They were innocent mistakes coming from “I don’t want to bother her”. But about three years ago, we visited two beloved families who were […]
“DD, are you crying?” That was the question that my mum asked my dad that unforgettable evening. A storm just hit their union. After a protracted battle with eye issues, we returned home to the news that Mum could not see again. Dad wiped off his wet eyes. I wonder a thousand times what passed through his mind in seconds. […]
After my session with a dear one, he went home and began to make adjustments in his mindset to certain things in their marriage. Some days later, the wife told him that when he saw that he maintained a grandstand on some of the issues they had, she stopped raising it or arguing about it. The interesting part was when […]
As she kept mentioning all the habits she could not bear in her husband, I smiled and smiled. Why? I saw who I used to be in the early days of our marriage. I was a bad listener. I would conclude her statements assuming I knew what she wanted to say. Most times, she would just tell me not to […]
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