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BEYOND “I AM IN LOVE” 11: ARE WE HEADING THE SAME WAY?

That evening when my friend returned to her base, I spoke with her mum. The question asked was loaded, “Pastor, I thought you were going to follow my princess home”. I apologised but I knew there was no way that was going to happen. We got pretty close, we bonded as friends, and we loved each other but our direction […]

BEYOND “I AM IN LOVE” 9: WHAT VALUES ARE NON-NEGOTIABLE FOR YOU? 

When the Lord called me to ministry in the land of Eruwa, my first relationship journey began to experience some shaking. It had been a smooth journey for about four years but that decision to go full-time in ministry in obedience to the Lord, especially in Eruwa became a ‘stumbling block’.  Some questions kept reoccurring. At one point, we were […]

BEYOND “I AM IN LOVE” 8: ARE THERE CONSISTENT CHARACTER TRAITS? 

We had a rough time in courtship simply because it was quite tough for some of my in-laws to accept that their beloved daughter who just graduated from a private university was settling to marry a pastor in a rural area.  At a point, Irewamiri needed to visit Eruwa and her guardians were not willing to hear anything about it […]

BEYOND “I AM IN LOVE” (8): ARE THERE CONSISTENT CHARACTER TRAITS? 

We had a rough time in courtship simply because it was quite tough for some of my in-laws to accept that their beloved daughter, who just graduated from a private university, was settling to marry a pastor in a rural area.  At a point, Irewamiri needed to visit Eruwa, but her guardians were not willing to hear anything about it […]

BEYOND “I AM IN LOVE” 7: ARE YOU ATTRACTED TO HIM/HER? 

I was shocked when my mum (who is deeply spiritual, tongue-speaking, and in the generation of baby boomers) asked me a question that I had never given thought to. We were in her kitchen that evening. She dropped the bomb: “Temi, what do you love about her body?”  I was caught off guard. I had never thought about it. I […]

BEYOND “I AM IN LOVE” 5: IS HE MERELY CULTURAL OR CHRISTLIKE? 

In the early days of my parent’s marriage, they had my Dad’s mum and younger brother living in the house with them for a season. During those days, issues began to brew gradually. My uncle would not do anything and would expect to be served like a king while my Grandma would give him support while trying to intimate the […]

BEYOND “I AM IN LOVE” 4: HAVE YOU DISCERNED WHO S(HE) IS?

A beloved one brought the lady he intended to marry. When she visited, we had some great time of interactions but I honestly did not hold back on sharing with her about the burdens of marrying a young man in ministry, especially in the location we were.  All we knew was that she disappeared after the visit. When she would […]