BEYOND “I AM IN LOVE” 14: ARE YOU ON THE SAME PAGE ABOUT VALUES?

A dear sister suffered heartbreak and found solace in the hands of a childhood friend who had been asking her out. She did not heal before committing to a new relationship.  One day, she had a reason to visit her boyfriend – he was ‘sick’. She broke all her rules that day. She drank alcohol for the first time in […]

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BEYOND “I AM IN LOVE” 13: DOES S(HE) HAVE WORDS THAT LIFT?

Some years ago, as we prepared for Sunday Service, I gave Irewamiri some money and I said, “Darling, this is all I have left aside our offering for today. Please, use this token to buy some things we may need”. Her response still rings a bell in me to date. She looked at me and said, “You are a blessed […]

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BEYOND “I AM IN LOVE” (12): HOW DOES S(HE) BEHAVE DURING A CONFLICT? 

During our courtship, I visited a dear father in the faith, and he asked an interesting question: “Have you ‘fought’ with Oyeronke before?” I responded in the negative.  He smiled and told me his story:  He agreed to everything his wife said in courtship. In the early days of marriage, he had reasons to tell her, “No, you cannot do […]

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BEYOND “I AM IN LOVE” 11: ARE WE HEADING THE SAME WAY?

That evening when my friend returned to her base, I spoke with her mum. The question asked was loaded, “Pastor, I thought you were going to follow my princess home”. I apologised but I knew there was no way that was going to happen. We got pretty close, we bonded as friends, and we loved each other but our direction […]

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BEYOND “I AM IN LOVE” 10: ARE YOU READY TO SHARE ALL WITH HIM/HER? 

On the 8th of May, 2024, my parents clocked forty-four years in marriage. Their marriage has been a great example to me and many others. Some six days before then, May 2nd makes it exactly twenty-six (26) years since we returned home from a family function and Mum announced to my Dad that she could not see him or anything […]

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BEYOND “I AM IN LOVE” 9: WHAT VALUES ARE NON-NEGOTIABLE FOR YOU? 

When the Lord called me to ministry in the land of Eruwa, my first relationship journey began to experience some shaking. It had been a smooth journey for about four years but that decision to go full-time in ministry in obedience to the Lord, especially in Eruwa became a ‘stumbling block’.  Some questions kept reoccurring. At one point, we were […]

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BEYOND “I AM IN LOVE” 8: ARE THERE CONSISTENT CHARACTER TRAITS? 

We had a rough time in courtship simply because it was quite tough for some of my in-laws to accept that their beloved daughter who just graduated from a private university was settling to marry a pastor in a rural area.  At a point, Irewamiri needed to visit Eruwa and her guardians were not willing to hear anything about it […]

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BEYOND “I AM IN LOVE” (8): ARE THERE CONSISTENT CHARACTER TRAITS? 

We had a rough time in courtship simply because it was quite tough for some of my in-laws to accept that their beloved daughter, who just graduated from a private university, was settling to marry a pastor in a rural area.  At a point, Irewamiri needed to visit Eruwa, but her guardians were not willing to hear anything about it […]

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BEYOND “I AM IN LOVE” 7: ARE YOU ATTRACTED TO HIM/HER? 

I was shocked when my mum (who is deeply spiritual, tongue-speaking, and in the generation of baby boomers) asked me a question that I had never given thought to. We were in her kitchen that evening. She dropped the bomb: “Temi, what do you love about her body?”  I was caught off guard. I had never thought about it. I […]

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