MADE FOR GREATNESS 4: DISTRACTION IS A WEAPON OF WAR

One of my fond childhood memories is of Daddy playing with us. It was always an exciting one. We would play mock boxing or even wrestling. Daddy would make a move like he was aiming for your face. As you attempt to block the face, his hand lands on your side. He would have a good laugh and say things […]

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BEYOND “I AM IN LOVE” 14: ARE YOU ON THE SAME PAGE ABOUT VALUES?

A dear sister suffered heartbreak and found solace in the hands of a childhood friend who had been asking her out. She did not heal before committing to a new relationship.  One day, she had a reason to visit her boyfriend – he was ‘sick’. She broke all her rules that day. She drank alcohol for the first time in […]

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BEYOND “I AM IN LOVE” 13: DOES S(HE) HAVE WORDS THAT LIFT?

Some years ago, as we prepared for Sunday Service, I gave Irewamiri some money and I said, “Darling, this is all I have left aside our offering for today. Please, use this token to buy some things we may need”. Her response still rings a bell in me to date. She looked at me and said, “You are a blessed […]

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BEYOND “I AM IN LOVE” 10: ARE YOU READY TO SHARE ALL WITH HIM/HER? 

On the 8th of May, 2024, my parents clocked forty-four years in marriage. Their marriage has been a great example to me and many others. Some six days before then, May 2nd makes it exactly twenty-six (26) years since we returned home from a family function and Mum announced to my Dad that she could not see him or anything […]

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BEYOND “I AM IN LOVE” 9: WHAT VALUES ARE NON-NEGOTIABLE FOR YOU? 

When the Lord called me to ministry in the land of Eruwa, my first relationship journey began to experience some shaking. It had been a smooth journey for about four years but that decision to go full-time in ministry in obedience to the Lord, especially in Eruwa became a ‘stumbling block’.  Some questions kept reoccurring. At one point, we were […]

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BEYOND “I AM IN LOVE” 8: ARE THERE CONSISTENT CHARACTER TRAITS? 

We had a rough time in courtship simply because it was quite tough for some of my in-laws to accept that their beloved daughter who just graduated from a private university was settling to marry a pastor in a rural area.  At a point, Irewamiri needed to visit Eruwa and her guardians were not willing to hear anything about it […]

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BEYOND “I AM IN LOVE” 5: IS HE MERELY CULTURAL OR CHRISTLIKE? 

In the early days of my parent’s marriage, they had my Dad’s mum and younger brother living in the house with them for a season. During those days, issues began to brew gradually. My uncle would not do anything and would expect to be served like a king while my Grandma would give him support while trying to intimate the […]

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BEYOND “I AM IN LOVE” 4: HAVE YOU DISCERNED WHO S(HE) IS?

A beloved one brought the lady he intended to marry. When she visited, we had some great time of interactions but I honestly did not hold back on sharing with her about the burdens of marrying a young man in ministry, especially in the location we were.  All we knew was that she disappeared after the visit. When she would […]

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THE SUBTLE TRAPS OF PROVING A POINT 

Anytime the girls are at the table, you will likely hear things like, “I finished before you”, “I finished first” or a line that shows competition. We always emphasize that it is good to finish well not just first. We also told them there was no need for that competition or comparison. We would tell them the importance of being […]

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