BEYOND “I AM IN LOVE” 9: WHAT VALUES ARE NON-NEGOTIABLE FOR YOU? 

When the Lord called me to ministry in the land of Eruwa, my first relationship journey began to experience some shaking. It had been a smooth journey for about four years but that decision to go full-time in ministry in obedience to the Lord, especially in Eruwa became a ‘stumbling block’.  Some questions kept reoccurring. At one point, we were […]

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BEYOND “I AM IN LOVE” 8: ARE THERE CONSISTENT CHARACTER TRAITS? 

We had a rough time in courtship simply because it was quite tough for some of my in-laws to accept that their beloved daughter who just graduated from a private university was settling to marry a pastor in a rural area.  At a point, Irewamiri needed to visit Eruwa and her guardians were not willing to hear anything about it […]

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BEYOND “I AM IN LOVE” 7: ARE YOU ATTRACTED TO HIM/HER? 

I was shocked when my mum (who is deeply spiritual, tongue-speaking, and in the generation of baby boomers) asked me a question that I had never given thought to. We were in her kitchen that evening. She dropped the bomb: “Temi, what do you love about her body?”  I was caught off guard. I had never thought about it. I […]

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BEYOND “I AM IN LOVE” 5: IS HE MERELY CULTURAL OR CHRISTLIKE? 

In the early days of my parent’s marriage, they had my Dad’s mum and younger brother living in the house with them for a season. During those days, issues began to brew gradually. My uncle would not do anything and would expect to be served like a king while my Grandma would give him support while trying to intimate the […]

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BEYOND “I AM IN LOVE” 4: HAVE YOU DISCERNED WHO S(HE) IS?

A beloved one brought the lady he intended to marry. When she visited, we had some great time of interactions but I honestly did not hold back on sharing with her about the burdens of marrying a young man in ministry, especially in the location we were.  All we knew was that she disappeared after the visit. When she would […]

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THE SUBTLE TRAPS OF PROVING A POINT 

Anytime the girls are at the table, you will likely hear things like, “I finished before you”, “I finished first” or a line that shows competition. We always emphasize that it is good to finish well not just first. We also told them there was no need for that competition or comparison. We would tell them the importance of being […]

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“DADDY, WE ARE MAKING FOOTPRINTS” 

We sat outside enjoying the breeze in the evening and at the same time watched the children play. I saw my girls standing in a corner pouring water from a container to their feet. They would then walk some steps intentionally. They returned to pour water on their feet again and repeated the process.  In my curiosity, I asked them […]

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DO NOT “CELEBRATE” WHAT THE DEVIL IS DOING 

We were all standing in front of my parent’s house when Danielle walked up to me with a gentle tap and whispered, “Daddy, I saw a snake”. I was almost in doubt about the way she said it. But I asked where she saw it and took me to the flower bed just in front of the house. Right there […]

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THAT MISTAKE IS NOT THE END!

Danielle woke up in the middle of the night while I worked. After a while, she mentioned that she was hungry. There was a cup of beverage that Olive only took a sip out of some hours earlier. I offered that to her. As she drank, she wanted to move her leg and it all poured away. It pained me […]

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