DO NOT JOKE WITH EXAMPLES

The Lord led my wife and I to give a particular gift to someone. Some days after he came to me and said, “Pastor, about two years ago, you were preaching and you said, ‘For instance, I am giving (I mentioned his name) a (I mentioned the gift)”. He then added, “Pastor, now you have done exactly what you used […]

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“TEMI, SEE YOUR MATE…”

About two years into the work of ministry in Eruwa, I travelled to Ibadan and ran into one of my coursemates at the university. We exchanged pleasantries for a bit. He was coming from a court outside the state. We caught up a bit on old times. When we were done, as he drove off, the devil said, “Temi, see […]

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BEFORE MORE… SAY THANK YOU FIRST!

Danielle had been with mum in the kitchen- clearing dishes alongside. It was a sweet adventure for her. Mum was also making Moin-Moin (a delicious delicacy made from blended beans that taste amazing when cooked in special leaves) and she was helping with the process. At a point, Mum had to relieve Danielle of some of the technical parts of […]

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“I DO NOT NEED TEACHERS”

I overheard a “just before school” conversation between Danielle and Irewamiri. Danielle was insisting that she does not need anyone to teach her and that she knew what she was doing already. Her mum said, “At my age, I still have teachers. Your dad at his age still has teachers. You will always need teachers”. That was the end of […]

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WHEN YOU DON’T KNOW WHAT YOU CARRY

We had been trusting God for the fruit of the womb. After a year and some months in marriage, we lightened up and believed that God will do it while we simply focus on enjoying ourselves. Our slogan was simple: “We would not allow what we want to deny us the enjoyment of what we have”. That changed everything for […]

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COUNSEL TO A YOUNG WIFE (7)- final charge

CLICK HERE TO READ COUNSEL TO A YOUNG WIFE (6) Few weeks after the birth of Danielle, we made an amazing discovery- we were already drifting apart gradually. Everything seems to be about our child now. There were days she slept right between us. We wake up and talk to her first before we talk to one another. There were […]

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COUNSEL TO A YOUNG WIFE (6)

CLICK HERE TO READ COUNSEL TO A YOUNG WIFE (5) My dear teacher looked at me that day and told me this parting words about sex in marriage, “No matter what happens, do not take yourselves too seriously. Keep learning. Keep exploring till you get better”. Dear young wife, do you want me to tell you the honest truth? You […]

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COUNSEL TO A YOUNG WIFE (5)

CLICK HERE TO READ COUNSEL TO A YOUNG WIFE (4) In a space of two weeks, we had argued about almost everything. Little things will bring sparks. I spent a while ruminating on what the challenge might be. After one of such disagreements, I gently sought the audience of my wife and told her, “Darling, I noticed that it has […]

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COUNSEL TO A YOUNG WIFE (4)

CLICK HERE TO READ COUNSEL TO A YOUNG WIFE (3) At the breakfast table just before our marriage, my spiritual father said to both us, “No one must come in between you- not your parents, friends, children or church members” Dear young wife, there is something you must NEVER do- do not report your spouse to your parents! Do not […]

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COUNSEL TO A YOUNG WIFE (3)

CLICK HERE TO READ COUNSEL TO A YOUNG WIFE (2) The whole church pulled a fast one on me that evening. As I stepped up to teach at the conference, they all screamed “We love you Pastor Temi”. They supported it with placards. In a rush, a lot of things came flashing by. I loved and appreciated the moment. I […]

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