COUNSEL TO A YOUNG WIFE (7)- final charge
Few weeks after the birth of Danielle, we made an amazing discovery- we were already drifting apart gradually. Everything seems to be about our child now.
There were days she slept right between us. We wake up and talk to her first before we talk to one another.
There were times I told Irewamiri that she uses more endearments for Danielle than she has ever done for me.
You will hear things like, “My baby, my love, good morning”. We were drifting apart.
Dear young wife, there is a subtle temptation to turn your affection on your new born baby and you start getting forgetful about your man.
My spiritual father warned us- “Let no one come in between you, not even your child”. I saw it.
There are days you will have disagreements and you will turn your focus to your child- watch it! Your man will start getting jealous.
Never get too bonded with your baby that you put your man in second place.
Do not let “My child my child” replace “My man My Man”. Still call Him sweet names. Hug him while you sleep off!
When you disagree, don’t pour your affection on your baby instead of seeking to resolve your conflict.
Do you know that when I hug my wife even till date, my daughter comes to separate us? But we keep doing it in her face to pass across a message.
Choose your man. Do not allow the baby care take away your tender care for him.
Be deliberate. Please, do not get carried away. Love Him up! Pay attention to him. Do not drift apart. Else, you will build up a thick wall of silence unconsciously and when it backfires, you both would not like it.
Post-Script: How has the series helped you? I would be glad to hear from you.